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Being Generous to Ourselves

Dear Gaye,

Your last post reminds me of the words of one of my teachers who once said to me: “It’s good to be generous to others, but you must remember to be generous to yourself!”

Perhaps this year’s New Year’s Resolution might be to follow that advice? Often we find it easy to be generous to others. We take pleasure in giving, but find it hard to be generous to ourselves. We tend to be our own worst critics, pronouncing judgements (usually negative ones) on all sorts of things, from our waist-size to the size of our bank balance.

Sometimes it’s just in our casual reactions, like saying “What an idiot I am!” under our breath when something goes wrong. Other times it can mean talking ourselves out of an opportunity. I figure we’ve all done this.

Being generous to ourselves means not talking like that any more: or, when we hear ourselves making a self-judgement, committing to taking it back each time. I find it easiest to talk to myself (sometimes even out loud!) in the third person when I hear myself say/think something negative like this. “Stop that!” I say to myself. I then overlay whatever it was that I just said with a statement of its opposite. The quicker I take action on it, the better.

Being generous to ourselves isn’t a selfish thing. It’s perhaps an essential ingredient in helping others be generous too. As above, so below. As within, so without.

Not a bad starting point for this year’s journey along the path of Natural Wealth…

Enjoy your day!

R.

WEBSITEwww.ResonanceWithLife.com

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Making Connections

“My hope and wish is that one day, formal education will pay attention to what I call “education of the heart.” Just as we take for granted the need to acquire proficiency in the basic academic subjects, I am hopeful that a time will come when we can take it for granted that children will learn, as part of the curriculum, the indispensability of inner values: love, compassion, justice, and forgiveness.”  The Dalai Lama

Dear Gaye,

I love the story in your last post. What a great reminder to us all that it’s when we engage with others that real magic happens!

Imagine how different our world would be if the daily news covered tales like this, focusing on the millions of instances of people connecting with each other that happen every day, rather than all the doom and gloom. I really don’t think it would take long for a big shift to happen: a shift from fear to faith.

I’ve just relocated back to England (for a while) and have noticed how wary people are of each other here in comparison to Southern Ireland. Like you, I tend to chat with people, giving them a smile and engaging in whatever topic pops into my head. It always leads somewhere interesting.

The other day I was in a long queue at the post office. In front of me was a young mother with her small boy, of maybe 6 or 7 years old. Hanging around in queues is deadly dull for small children (I remember it well!) and he was getting bored, singing “Let it snow!” louder and louder to get attention. I bent down and started chatting with him. Do you think it’ll snow this Christmas? Yes, I hope so: that sort of thing.

Then I realized that his Mom was looking at me with alarm. Her eyes said: “Who is this strange man? Why is he talking with my son? What does he want?” I looked her right in the eye and simply said “It’s ok, I have three kids of my own,” at which point she softened and we carried on chatting, all three of us, whilst the queue got shorter. We didn’t have the spectacular results that you and your artist friend did, but a moment of fear was transformed into a few minutes of connection.

And that, to me, is what this time in our evolution is all about: transforming fear of difference into moments of connection. Yes, we’re all unique, but we’re all pretty much the same underneath, with 99.99% of our genome being shared by each one of us across the globe.

By nature, we are all one. And we know it. Put a group of two year olds in a room and leave them to it and they get on just fine, no matter what color, creed or social background they’re from. We’re genetically predisposed to connect.

It’s only later, when we go to school and start to listen to what our friends and parents tell us, that we start to see others as different. They myth of separation begins to kick in and pretty soon we start making judgements that set “us” aside from “them”. And that’s where the problems come in. Squabbles over differences lead to arguments on a minor scale, wars on a major one.

We’re heading towards Christmas, a time when we direct our attention towards giving and sharing, when we’re encouraged to display our innate sense of empathy. I wonder, though, whether each of us can make a commitment to bringing that sense of empathy into every day of our lives, sharing a smile, offering help whenever we can, doing what we can to bridge the perceived divides?

I think we can. It doesn’t have to be in huge, grand gestures (although those are just fine too!). We can all do a little bit, each day. And each little bit mounts up. And the shift begins.

For me, there’s no such thing as separation. What I feel, you feel. What happens to animals, plants, to the earth itself, happens to me too. That’s the beauty of it. We’re all in this together.

Namaste,

Richard.

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The Old Man in the Park

Dear Gaye,

This morning’s post is not so much a response to yours as a simple story of an experience I had this morning, although it does link in with our recent thread on receiving messages from what goes on around us.

I’m writing this from the busy metropolis that is Hong Kong where I’m scheduled to speak at a seminar later in the week. I’ve been here before, but it’s always something of a shock to come to a place so full of hustle and bustle when one is used to living in the countryside. I enjoy the contrast, in smallish doses!

This morning I was up and out early walking the streets, when I came upon a small park in the middle of the city: a few trees and some benches, with a handful of birds hopping about collecting their breakfast.

On one of the benches sat an old man, his ring of white hair surrounding a bald head and beneath it a face lined with the experience and wisdom of many summers. As I stood drinking in the early breeze I watched him going through a series of physical movements, slowly, deliberately (Qi Gong). First he swung his right arm out and back, repeating the movement for perhaps 30 seconds. Then the left arm. He then massaged various points on his face. He repeated this routine for some time until eventually he bowed his head in prayer.

Two things struck me as I wandered back to the comforts of my hotel. The first was that I would not have seen this beautiful sight if I had not been up and about early (it was barely 5.00a.m.) which reminded me that unlooked-for opportunities are around every corner, but that we only happen upon them when we give ourselves the chance to. Had I been tucked up in bed, or watching TV, or simply working on my laptop, I would have missed the messages of my morning walk.

The second was that peace, so often portrayed as something passive, is something to be actively practiced, especially in today’s world where everything seems to happen faster and faster and there seem to be barely enough hours in the day. I believe peace is is an essential part of wealth, because without it we have no foundation, no real sense of belonging here. Without it we cannot open up to what you called The Spirit of Breath in your last post. The Breath of Life.

How do we find peace in ourselves? For me, it is in the daily practice of the Spirit Level Technique: a combination of ancient teachings and modern day science that I have learned, adapted and practice each and every day. For this old man it was to find a relatively quiet corner within a busy city and follow his own particular routine.

What we do is perhaps not as important as the doing of it. Peace, like any other sensation, is to be explored, fingered, touched, tasted, heard, smelled and seen so that it becomes a part of our daily lives. And the more we practice the doing of it, the easier it becomes to feel it in our lives.

A third message was brought to me from seeing this old man sitting on a bench in a park in Hong Kong, which is this: no matter what our surroundings, we can find and feel peace when we choose to do so. Here was an old man sitting surrounded by high-rise buildings. The fumes of cars and the dust of the city swirled around him. Yet here he was, his head bowed in prayer, giving thanks for the breaking of a new day.

Let’s leave him there, as I did, with a smile of gratitude of our own. And let’s make the decision to make finding peace just as active a part of our lives as finding new incomes streams, improving our physical health, or sharing a smile with a loved one.

With love and best wishes,

Richard

WEBSITEwww.IgniteWealthNow.com

Dragonfly Teachings and The Quickening

Dear Gaye,

A little while ago we talked about the dragonfly larva that crawls up a stem from
a life submerged underwater into a life in the air. We mentioned how it will sit waiting for the sun towarm its body before it hatches out. Then it will sit some more as its wings dry.  Then it takes to the air and flies.

I know that just recently you have been seeing lots of dragonflies and, given how we both feel (which is that nature sends us messages each moment of each day) I thought it would be fun to look at how all these dragonfly messages tie in with our recent posts on non-resistance, trust and “going with the flow”.

You put it just perfectly last time: resistance is futile – and a doorway to freedom. I guess the dragonfly is a perfect example of this. It goes through a huge shift, yet it never resists the outcome of its actions. Instead it follows the call of its instincts, pulled inexorably upwards from the liquid environment it has known as its home and taking wing because it knows that is the only way to go.

Let’s open this out a little. Movement is at the heart of everything. Nothing stays
static, not even for one moment. Not one cell of your body, not the room you
are sitting in now, nor the yard outside, nor the woods, the hills or the
fields…not one single thing in the whole universe is totally still right now. Even
the spaces between are forever moving to the dance of the Game of Life.

Within you and me and everything else there lies a subtle sound, a frequency
that creates all this movement. It draws us all together, uniting us in its
resonance no matter where we were born or what our upbringing taught us.

I believe that as we transition into following the ways of the Divine Design, this
frequency becomes more apparent, because we start to fully trust our intuitions.
The reason is real simple. Intuition means to be “taught from within”. But within
what? Within the body, yes, but where does the body end and space begin?
Where is the separation between what’s inside and what’s “outside” it?

The answer is that there is none! Separation is just an idea. It doesn’t really exist.
We don’t end where our bodies end. We just keep on going! The difference is that we can’t see the bits of us that are outside our bodies: but we know that they
are they. They’re out there, forever fingering the world around us, millions of waves of electro-magnetic energy, learning, processing and giving us instant
feedback to what’s happening not just nearby, but as far away as you can imagine too…

We’re hardwired into this world of feedback, no matter how much we might try to deny it!

So, when we follow our intuitions we are being taught both from within and without. We’re listening to the part of us that reaches in and in and in – and  we’re listening to the part of us that goes out and out and out.  The secret is to know that both parts of us touch every atom of matter, each moment of time.  We’re truly interconnected.

I believe you are right, Gaye. This is a time when plenty of us are waking up from
the collective slumber that we have been in. It’s a time when our perceptions
speed up as we evolve and adapt to new ways of doing things.

We’re each of us like the dragonfly, moving out from the parameters of an old
way of doing things. And our ability to change the course of the future from one
in which we destroy the fragile balance of the planet around us to one in which
we can survive and thrive may well depend on how well we learn to listen to the
messages all around us, the messages of the Spirit Within and the Spirit
Without.

It could just be that it’s birth-time for the human race. If so, it’s a birth that will take us to places we cannot as yet be sure of. But it has to be worth emerging
from the pond. It has to be worth letting our wings dry, as they surely will,
before we take off on the next stage of our adventure, not knowing where we
will land, but enjoying our new-found agility, taking deep breaths of a new
kind of air, our multi-coloured bodies shining in the sunlight…

Will we learn to heed the call of the Spirit Within and the Spirit Without? Will we return to the ways of our ancestors, who knew all too well that there is no such thing as separation between one life and another and that the natural world around us truly does tell us all we need to know? I think so, yes.

We just have to be humble enough to re-learn the proud art of asking for its guidance – and then taking actions that are 100% in line with what’s best for us all.

With my love and best wishes,

Richard.

www.IgniteWealthNow.com

REMEMBERING WHO WE ARE

Dear Gaye,

I love the image of your two selves: the small one with the ego trying to resist things and the larger one that is beckoning to you to go with the flow, to express the energy and light with which you, like all of us, were born. I’d like to develop
this idea of different selves and suggest that we increase our power when we
stop resisting who we really are and hand ourselves over to that “larger” self.

Here’s another image for you. Think of life as a big board game. Your physical body is the counter on that board game. It’s the part that moves from square to square as you experience things in three dimensional reality. But it’s not the part of you that has the instruction manual of how to play the game in its hands. Nor is it the part of you that throws the dice.

So, who or what is it that has the rule-book? Who throws the dice and moves you around the board game of life?

The answer is: the part of you that rose to the surface through colors and feelings and led you to give out a sound of completeness: the part of you that is far, far larger and more powerful than your ego. Some people call it “spirit”, some call it “god”. I call it the Divine Self, because it is the self that truly divines what is best for you.

The names don’t really matter. What matters is that we all have it, embedded deeply within us. Divinity is not something that’s just “out there”. It’s “in here” as well. It’s the part of you that locates and experiences infinite sources of
energy and light and loves to share them with others.

We all know this when we’re small. Our Divine Self shines from us brightly as we explore the world around us, asking questions, connecting with others, being the endlessly curious and confident selves that we naturally are. That’s why listening to the laughter of small children when we’re adults, or looking into the shining eyes of a baby, is so compelling.  We’re instantly transported back to a connection with who we once were…and who we still are, just beneath the surface.

As very small children we’re all truly divine. We know where we’re at. We follow our intuition at all times. We meet life head-on, accepting its mysteries without
fearing them. It’s only later that we get taught to be fearful, to not let our
genii out of the bottle, to clip our own wings.

That’s because our western education turns us towards the illusion that we are
separate from our environment. Like a virus in a computer, it deflects us from
our true potential, slowing us down and spreading to others through our
attachments. That’s why detaching yourself from outcomes is so important. If
you don’t open attachments, you don’t release the virus.

Natural Wealth is all about reconnecting with this Divine Self, because it’s my belief that as a race we have gotten to the point where we have to find a new sources of wealth, sources that are truly sustainable and that don’t involve competition with each other or destruction of our planet. And I believe that the answers lie in reconnecting with our Divine Selves.

So how do we do that? How do we strip away the layers of education and social expectancy so that our Divine Selves can come out and play? The answer is: we stop resisting the notion that they are there! Just as you talk about in your last post. We take a step sideways from “normal thinking” and allow ourselves to remember who we are. We decide to never let fear be a motivation for any of our actions, but instead to always act from love. This includes loving ourselves enough to let the resistance to expressing ourselves fall away, to allow our Divine Selves to rise to the surface and explore life’s mysteries with all the enthusiasm and passion that we had when we were small.

That really does involve letting go of the rope: the rope that our ego clutches onto so tightly, afraid of what might happen if we don’t stick to the ways we learned at school. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it, every time, because letting go of that rope brings a deep, deep breath of relief. And pretty soon afterwards we realize that the most important thing about playing the Great Game of Life is not to try to WIN it, it’s to help each other to regain the freedom to come out to play!

Keep shining brightly over there in sunny Austin, Gaye. It’s what we’re all here to do…

With love and best wishes,

Richard

Natural Wealth can be found at www.IgniteWealthNow.com