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Where Our Attention Goes, Energy Flows

Dear Richard,

Sustainable sources of wealth for our families and communities.  That is what stuck with me after reading your last post Richard.   We have a broad perspective on wealth at ResonanceWithLife, however it feels important to me to take a look at how our culture defines wealth and our part in the creation of that.  Where do we individually, and as communities, put our attention?

Recently I was given a very strong lesson in this universal principle – where we put our attention the energy always flows – and oftentimes makes it even stronger than it would normally be than if we put our attention in other places . The universal tendency is to place attention on what is NOT working.  That could be pain, emotional upheavals, stress at work, interpersonal connections –  most anything.  I thought I was immune being a particularly positive person…but turns out that I certainly am not!

It is easy to see this very strong biological imprint in action that rests deeply within our cellular make up.  This survival instinct has us always on the look out for anything that seems to imbalance or threaten our life as we know it.  Thus, we tend to put attention on the negative things as they seem to be what is threatening us – even if they really aren’t!

For example in a recent yoga class we were asked to consciously shift our attention from our “screaming hamstring muscles” in a particular forward bend.  Instead we were asked to think of someone we love and put our attention there.  Immediately when our attention was taken off of the pain, the discomfort actually lessened, and in my case I realized that my range of motion also increased.

Yet another lesson in this universal principle occurred recently within a powerful change in my own daily life.  Focusing on all of the negative factors put me in a place of extreme STRESS.  I wasn’t happy and the stress was building.  Physical health and life energy were being compromised as my new set of circumstances brought daily challenges which I was perceiving as negative.  I felt trapped.  An entrapment of my own making as it turns out.

Then something happened to cause me to reflect on how I was thinking and where I was putting my attention.  The learning curve that I was in brought with it stress, that was certain.  But, where was I putting my attention?!  On how much the life that I had been leading was being affected – loss of freedom and creative time, tasks that were being given to me that I either didn’t know how to do or didn’t have time to do, interpersonal conflicts that were arising all around me…and it went on.

After reflection I decided that I would try a little experiment to see if changing where I put my attention would make a difference.  An intention was set for the next day.  Attention went on everything that I was doing right on this learning curve, and taken off of any mistakes or inability to perform in the way that I thought that I should.  This attention also included words being used to describe experiences during the day.

You might be able to guess the result of this experiment.  The day went smoothly.  Interpersonal connections were easier.  Everyone seemed to be happier in my environment….and I was a lot less stressed!!

So….given that our economies are under tremendous pressure and changes right now, I ask the question where should we be putting out attention?  On fear of loss and drastic financial change?  Or ways that we truly can create sustainable sources of wealth for ourselves and our communities NOW, based on a deep planetary interconnection with all of life?

Where your attention goes, energy flows!

With Love,



Someone Has Your Back

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” -Alan Watts

This evening in a restorative yoga class in my new home of Austin, Texas, where we did partner work in a Thai Massage style, the teacher in his quiet and grounded voice said, “you can let go now of those areas that you are holding onto. Trust that someone has your back”.  He had no idea how deeply this hit me in that moment.

It came to me quite clearly that although I have said to myself, you Richard, and others that I am in trust about the unfolding of my life, the truth of the matter is that there are parts of me that are showing up rather strongly now that have no idea how to trust, especially when it comes to monetary wealth streams – just one of the many energetic ways that wealth shows up in our lives.

Yes, this relocation to a new city – which was completely my choice mind you – represents an opportunity to practice the Universal Laws of Wealth and abundant living way beyond anything I  have ever done before.  I imagine that I must be ready.

Several things converged to make my first couple of days a little challenging including a rather bad case of bronchitis (I never get sick!) which started in the time I was in my “home” town of San Diego 4 days before my arrival here.   After that last post that you did Richard it gave me pause to see just where I might be contracting, and perhaps not in complete alignment with this chosen journey.

In addition, great change can be stressful and when our entire lives are dumped upside down (again by choice!) the emotional reactions can cause some imbalance in the body.  At these times we know that it is best to rest, but sometimes that may not be possible, or we may choose not to.

Coming back around to trust I have decided that the signs that “someone has our back” are around us all of the time!  From the day I quit the “job with benefits” on 7/1, to right now in this very moment I have been supported emotionally, physically, monetarily, spiritually, and basically taken care of in such an amazing way that I am still in awe!  Family, friends, strangers, and you Richard have been the signposts along the way letting me know that “someone has my back”.

This evening as my body relaxed against the young woman in the yoga class who was supporting me in a pose the flash of recognition came that I was holding on, contracting, and doubting that it was OK to really trust.  Not in the pose – but in my life!

My mind tells me that I have 3-4 weeks at most before some streams of income need to be coming in.  Watching over the last few days since I arrived here there is a mental hesitation (and endless inner calculations) about spending money – any money.

Yet my heart knows what is needed right now so the herbs and good organic produce for the bronchitis and for vital health, the special for unlimited yoga classes for my body, heart and soul for the next month, saying yes to receive from a friend here who is temporarily graciously housing me free of any monetary charge, and putting gas in my car to explore this amazing new place I have landed myself in are all part of the trust.

I have decided that really being in the moment with dis-trust and dis-ease is just as powerful as those moments when absolute trust is on board.   They are the life experiences which inform us that we are human….and crack us open to possibility.

So, I am plunging in, moving with it, and doing my own unique dance knowing that someone/something (force of Spirit) always has my back.   Now get up and dance with me to Eric Bibbs  Don’t Let Nobody Drag Your Spirit Down!  It’s all life!!


Courageous or Crazy? Painting Outside of The Lines

A human being is a part of a whole, called by us “universe”, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest… a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”Albert Einstein

I start with this beautiful and insightful quote by Einstein as I believe that when we choose to walk upon what Richard and I call the path of Natural Wealth we must keep opening to “widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty”.

I find that as we do this we can no longer accept separation from the whole, but instead must embody the wealth of the life that we have been given,  constantly learning that as we are courageous – or crazy as some people will judge – this widens our experience of the life we have been given.

I am finding that part of being courageous is to “demand definite leads” as Richard stated in his last post, and then actively follow them!  Playing a passive role in a life changing self-created shift just doesn’t seem to work. However,  I have to confess that the word “demand” did make me uncomfortable as it energetically made me picture a willful child demanding that they get their way.  Unyielding! …yet this journey “demands” that at times we must yield, or let go into following the leads as they appear at our doorstep.

So given all of that…the word that I have chosen for myself is “declaring” that definite leads are coming my way – and they are!.  A matter of semantics perhaps…..but finding the right fit, being aware of how it feels inside, and seeing what it ignites on my particular path of Natural Wealth is important….. and a confirmation of what you Richard have spoken on about the importance of feelings!

Feelings produce a deeper knowledge that runs within the cells without the resistance of logic.  That knowledge brings certainty, calmness, assurance.  It is the candle that lights your way to Natural Wealth and your Faith and Trust are the hands cupped around it, ensuring that the flame never blows out.”

Follow Every Lead” is also something that I would add to this discussion.  Our minds would have us judge many of the “nudges”, or leads, that come our way each day  as not important, not acceptable to follow,  “impossible”, or they get overlooked all together.  I am here to say – follow every one!…and trust that your feelings/heart will tell you when you should let go or turn in another direction.  I would go so far as to say definitely follow those leads that seem rather crazy to you or that you have never even considered.  They often are the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! (more stories in future posts!)

As I was slogging through the cleaning and packing up of my little cottage this past weekend in preparation for my move to a friend’s home for the next 5 weeks before the launch to Austin,  I found myself doubting my sanity in moments.  This move out would mark yet another step forward with all indications that there was “no turning back!”  Was I really doing the “right” thing?

Just as I was in the midst of those feelings a very large bird appeared outside of my sliding glass door soaring in the air completely free and at liberty to go wherever he/she wanted to go.   As Richard’s bird saved him from a head on collision with a lorry, my bird reminded me of my hearts strong message that I definitely am on the right path and I am actually free in this very moment….and all of the moments to follow.  It is a matter of perception, and willingness to keep listening to the hearts constant guidance.

And the “craziness” continues……A month or more ago I declared that I was moving to Austin and moving out of my current home before the actual relocation. A week ago I gave notice at my current nursing job that my last day would be 7/1/11.

As I take each step I am making it an intriguing practice to listen to what other people comment about my particular journey.  Most of these comments or questions have to do with quitting a “secure job with benefits”, moving to a new location where I have not secured a “job”, not having a “secured” home to live in once I arrive there,  or the reason for the relocation must have to be a man, family or friends.    Note worthy is the word “secure” whether it be stated outright or merely inferred.

The most common comment made to me is that I am very brave…or maybe I am just crazy!  I can actually see/feel these people quacking in their boots so to speak at the mere thought of this free fall of trust!  Our culture has brain washed us well.  The next comment that people make is “I would be too scared to do what you are doing”.   So I ask you, am I courageous or am I simply crazy??

My answer to this, if you would like to know, is that I am both – and proud to claim the last one!  Living our lives inside of the lines of accepted cultural thought and roles is acceptable.  Given this, if one colors outside of the lines – then you must be crazy!

What if crazy means living in possibility and trust.  Not having to pin down anything because you have opened to your whole being (some would say God here) and aligned with possibility and opportunity.   Being and embodying the magnificent being that you are, loving and living fiercely within that sacred space of your life.

In parting I say,  join me as I get out the paints, allow the heart to guide the way, and definitely paint outside of the lines that have been drawn around a carefully self-contained life.  “…… “It is the candle that lights your way to Natural Wealth and your Faith and Trust are the hands cupped around it, ensuring that the flame never blows out.”

It may be messy….but oh what fun!!


Negotiating The Overpass – Creating Another Game

Here I am in Austin, Texas completing my last day of exploration for potential relocation.  When first guided to check out this city with “soul” I just laughed out loud for it seemed rather outrageous for a Southern California, liberal, alternative health and mindset, spiritual, natural countryside dweller, wildly free woman to be looking at relocating to urban Texas!

However, what I have learned is that we tend to label ourselves such and such, thus locking out any possibilities that may have us grow, expand, and look beyond what we have done and who we have been in the past.  Such a seductive thing to identify ones self by certain characteristics, place of birth, family up bringing, past professions, or whatever else that we have attached to ourselves.  In addition, we also do the same thing to places and people that we really don’t know from personal experience.

I am discovering that being whole is an entirely different game to play than the one that keeps most of us locked in the narrow confines of past experience.  For example, there are overpasses in Austin that on first (and just maybe beyond that!) navigation scare you to death!  These overarching one car overpasses have very little guard rail and when that wind blows it feels just like a roller coaster ride upon which you have very little control.

In a way the process of finding your natural wealth expression in the world is like driving over one of those bridges.  It is new territory, confidence is required, there is quite an expansive view from up there (all those possibilities!),  and all you can do is move forward (there is definitely no turning back!).  On the down side of the bridge it is simply an easy flow to the main artery of the next freeway, or a quick exit to other surface roads.

My time here in Austin has been easy, flowing, and filled with great people and wonderful experiences, which all of course have contributed to my intention to feel into this place from my heart….and not the head.  While swimming in an outdoor lap pool of fresh cool water yesterday with the gentle, slightly humid warmth caressing me, there were moments of complete rapture.  It was completed when I was able to take an outdoor shower (in the ladies dressing room of course!) and feel into how incredible it is to be without clothes in nature with a great overarching oak above me.

However, today it felt like I was attempting to either back up or turn around on that high over arching bypass.  My head got involved!  There is a balance between practicality and trust.  Last night I realized that I would most probably be relocating to Austin.  Last night, my head told me I shouldn’t waste time and needed to “make the most” of my last day here (today) and I plotted out some temp agencies to check out.  (suggested by the person I am staying with)

Many of us often tend to listen to the advice or seemingly wise counsel of another, and by-pass what our heart is, and has been, telling us all along.  Most people are playing the game that is most popular for our culture and making decisions on what is best for their own lives from those “rules”.

However, the game of my own creation that best supports creativity, authentic expression and thriving – feels to be the pathway to innate natural wealth and joy.  Along the way I get to fine tune judgement,  learn valuable lessons, and simply appreciate those people who care enough about me to offer guidance.

As Richard has noted in the last post,  sharing with those that support your journey no matter how it turns out is important, but also one needs to be able to distinguish between what is deeply true for yourself and what is the path of another.   Great discernment here.  Staying aware of thinking processes that tempt one to bail on choices of the heart feels to be mandatory in this journey.

I will end with telling you that as I sat and filled out at least 12 double-sided pages of application for the temp agency (reminder here – I am moving out of “jobs”) my heart and intuition kept saying – “why the heck are you doing this??  Just leave now!”  I even had a very difficult time finding the agency and it took me several tries to get there, unlike the ease I had experienced over the last several days.

The “responsible part” of me completed the application process, but when handing the paperwork  in I opted out of meeting with a representative of the agency to continue on with the process.  It was obviously not in alignment with my purpose for being in Austin.

Perhaps this last experience was a necessary part of the journey.  To remember  and appreciate who I am and what I am looking for….to learn my own lessons on the path and to always trust my heart and intuition.

By the way, Austin is a wildly free place of great alternative and conscious thinking with cultural diversity, ecological awareness, trees everywhere, very friendly people, and a consciousness that I would have to say is quite liberal for Texas.  It also happens to be the live music capital of the world.  Shall I move to Austin??  Stay tuned….


The Terrain Of The Trap of Conformity

Conformity.  What exactly does that mean?  Well I looked it up in the handy online dictionary and this is what I found for the top 3 definitions:

action in accord with prevailing social standards, attitudes, practices, etc.
correspondence in form, nature, or character; agreement, congruity, or accordance.
compliance or acquiescence; obedience.

Synonyms:  For definition – compliance:  acquiescence, allegiance, assent, consent, conventionality, docility, obedience, observance, orthodoxy, resignation, submission, willingness

Synonyms For definition of correspondence, harmony:   accord, affinity, agreement, coherence, conformance, congruity, consistency, consonance, likeness, resemblance, similarity

I would likely say that most of our relationship with the meaning of this word revolves around the 1st and 3rd definition, at least when it comes to our behavior and actions in our culture and society.  Naturally having an innate drive to “belong” we fall into the trap of compliance or conformity when it does not align with our hearts, instead of living in congruity – a union or compliance with our hearts messages to us.

I bring all of this because it feels so very relevant to the global and planetary changes we find ourselves in at this pivotal time, and for me in the particular journey that I have undertaken…..that many of us are taking.

Do we “follow our hearts”, or do we conform to the structures that have been laid down over time for us without questioning them?  It appears that there is a lot of questioning going on right now – and that is a very good thing!

The messages that we need to hear are everywhere to release ourselves from the trap of conformity.  Just last night I was reading a passage in a brand new book just released from the UK entitled Tilly Greenway and The Secret of the Ancient Keys/Book 1 – Watchers, by Essi Tolling,  a book for teens to adults.  I was struck by a few paragraphs where Ambrose – The Bearer of the Blue Light, one of the Guardians of the Earth says,

“The world around you is not what you have been lead to believe.  Many things have been kept from us, indeed from everyone, in order to keep us shut inside a tiny box, a place where we see only what is put before us, instead of looking through the veil at that which lies beyond.  Yet truth has a habit of rising to the surface and now, at last, we reach the time when much will be revealed!

He paused to make certain that Tilly and Zack were paying attention before continuing.

“Take nothing you have been told for granted, for little in this life is as it seems.  We are surrounded by a web of lies, spun by those who wish to keep us from our destiny, and you must unlearn most of what you have been taught if you are to escape the trap that has been set for you!  You must learn to look not with your eyes, but with your hearts, placing your trust not on what yo think is real, but on what you know deep down is true.  That is the only way to break the meshes of deception’s net!” (pg 126/First Edition)

Now mind you Tilly is 12 and Zack is 13, but they are a reflection of you and I attempting to find and integrate the ancient wisdom, or “keys” if you will, that unlock the door to release from the conformity that has kept us shackled in the dark,  thus shedding a great deal of light upon our lives.  Tilly and Zack are in the midst of a powerful adventure, but then isn’t all of life that!?

Strong words you might say, but let me give you another example of how this operates by an experience I had yesterday.  As you know, I am releasing a “job with benefits” to dance in the passion of what I can create and co-create on my own.  In addition, I am relocating to another “home” that supports these endeavors….all at the same time!

On a walk down the country road outside of my little cottage my mind started to review the timeline I have set for all of this to happen…and a sudden terror filled my body to where I could not even breathe.  The grip that it had on me lasted only seconds, but it was enough to get my undivided attention!

My thoughts had been on thinking I needed to secure another “job” in the new location and how I would go about that over the next 2 months.  Very old patterns and conformity to the “way things are done” in our culture overcame me, and when the fear came in I was right smack into manipulating and controlling my next steps – supposedly to guarantee that I would be “taken care of” financially.  For example, looking at “want ads” and applying for jobs before I even have a chance to see what may emerge naturally when I am in this location.

The terror made me feel everything in my body in that moment. What was going on was a lack of breath, a gripping of muscles, a pressure in my head, and a sense of contraction all over.  Would this get your attention??  Underlying all of these physical symptoms was a momentary LACK OF TRUST in what I call “the way of the heart and intuition”.

Unfortunately, I believe that we often don’t even notice these signs of operating under a conformity that does not serve our whole being and thriving in life, until it is too late – manifested as dis-ease or the recycling of life experiences/patterns over and over that we so want to move out of.

Needless to say, these few moments on my country road walk revealed to me that I was once again smack in the middle of conforming to a way of operating and making decisions that has kept me personally trapped in a very small box of my own creation.

So…as I make my way to explore the new location at the end of next week, I will make certain I stay embodied, am aware of synchronicity, notice how I am breathing, TRUST the unfolding of my time there, and follow all leads with my heart directing the way.  As I experience and make choices from this place it affects every interconnected life form around me…. all is one.

Stay tuned for what happens in the next chapter….and know that I will be aware when I am in the terrain of the “trap”.  Thanks Richard for our continuing dialogue!!

RESOURCE:  A Great Read ! Watchers , by Essi Tolling

Available on Amazon UK at the link above.


Keeping Your Head When All Around Lose Theirs

Dear Gaye,

Apologies for the slightly late response to your last post.  I’ve been extremely busy working with clients who are concerned about current political as well as economic ructions across the globe.  As a result, I thought it appropriate to perhaps change the emphasis of this week’s post to make specific comments on global events.

I’m aware that most people tend to think only about what is happening within their own location (it’s a fact for instance that private real estate investors on average buy all their investment properties within a 9-mile radius of where they live!).  More than ever, I believe now is the time not only to diversify any wealth-strategies you may have, but to internationalise as well.

Why?  Well…

The past few years have seen more earthquakes, floods, droughts and volcanic eruptions than anything most of us have experienced.  When this occurs, you can expect to see shock-waves reverberate through the stock markets, banking and business generally.  There’s a very obvious reason for this: instability on the outside breeds instability within.  (In the aftermath of the Japan quake the stock market fell ten points almost overnight.)  And there is more climatic upheaval to come.

Last weekend’s full moon was a “supermoon” because it had a greater effect than normal.  This isn’t some new age mumbo-jumbo.  It’s practical science.  Changes in the normal course of lunar activity affect the magnetic currents that weave and twist their way through our world.  And this has an effect on us.

This is because we all have crystals of magnetite in the centre of our brains.  These crystals give us our sense of direction, helping us find our way home in the dark (much like homing pigeons).  When unusual magnetic fluctuations are experienced, our brains literally feel “out of synch”.  Our sense of direction is compromised.  We can become ungrounded and this can lead to fear-based reactions if we are not careful.

Bear in mind, too, that everything in our world is interconnected.  So when a disaster happens in one corner of the world, its shock waves reverberate all around us.  And we feel it instantly (more on how this works in future posts).  So, if millions of people are feeling something in Japan, or Africa, you can be sure that people all across the USA, South America and Europe are feeling it too.

The result is that panic can set in, as we’re seeing right now in the Middle East and Africa.

What to do in such times of apparent meltdown?  Stay calm.  Be prepared to adapt.  If you don’t have a back-up plan, create one now.  Much of what I see as “wealth” is the ability to feel secure, to experience the underlying peace and connection that you talked about in your post about nature.  If you have a back-up plan, you will be much better equipped to deal with times of change.

And this is where internationalizing comes in.  I would advise all US citizens who have any form of savings, investments in stocks or holdings in the US Dollar to look for options to diversify immediately.  Don’t sit on the fence.  My reading is that the dollar is under extreme pressure right now and that there is worse to come.  Spread your risk by moving some of your holdings to other countries.  Consider “solid” investments (literally solid: gold, silver, platinum or land) rather than depending on banks, stocks, bonds etc – all of which might disappear overnight in the event of an FDR-style “correction” to the system.

When you do this, you’ll be helping yourself regain a sense of security and stability and this in turn will help others.  You’ll be keeping yourself calm, no matter how rough the seas appear elsewhere.  And it is only over calm waters that your ships of opportunity are able to reach you and tie up safely at your harbour walls.

The added bonus to this is that by the Law of Resonance, the fact that you are able to do this will help others do the same.  In this way, we can all help each other.

Until next time, my best wishes,