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Dear Gaye,

I love the image of your two selves: the small one with the ego trying to resist things and the larger one that is beckoning to you to go with the flow, to express the energy and light with which you, like all of us, were born. I’d like to develop
this idea of different selves and suggest that we increase our power when we
stop resisting who we really are and hand ourselves over to that “larger” self.

Here’s another image for you. Think of life as a big board game. Your physical body is the counter on that board game. It’s the part that moves from square to square as you experience things in three dimensional reality. But it’s not the part of you that has the instruction manual of how to play the game in its hands. Nor is it the part of you that throws the dice.

So, who or what is it that has the rule-book? Who throws the dice and moves you around the board game of life?

The answer is: the part of you that rose to the surface through colors and feelings and led you to give out a sound of completeness: the part of you that is far, far larger and more powerful than your ego. Some people call it “spirit”, some call it “god”. I call it the Divine Self, because it is the self that truly divines what is best for you.

The names don’t really matter. What matters is that we all have it, embedded deeply within us. Divinity is not something that’s just “out there”. It’s “in here” as well. It’s the part of you that locates and experiences infinite sources of
energy and light and loves to share them with others.

We all know this when we’re small. Our Divine Self shines from us brightly as we explore the world around us, asking questions, connecting with others, being the endlessly curious and confident selves that we naturally are. That’s why listening to the laughter of small children when we’re adults, or looking into the shining eyes of a baby, is so compelling.  We’re instantly transported back to a connection with who we once were…and who we still are, just beneath the surface.

As very small children we’re all truly divine. We know where we’re at. We follow our intuition at all times. We meet life head-on, accepting its mysteries without
fearing them. It’s only later that we get taught to be fearful, to not let our
genii out of the bottle, to clip our own wings.

That’s because our western education turns us towards the illusion that we are
separate from our environment. Like a virus in a computer, it deflects us from
our true potential, slowing us down and spreading to others through our
attachments. That’s why detaching yourself from outcomes is so important. If
you don’t open attachments, you don’t release the virus.

Natural Wealth is all about reconnecting with this Divine Self, because it’s my belief that as a race we have gotten to the point where we have to find a new sources of wealth, sources that are truly sustainable and that don’t involve competition with each other or destruction of our planet. And I believe that the answers lie in reconnecting with our Divine Selves.

So how do we do that? How do we strip away the layers of education and social expectancy so that our Divine Selves can come out and play? The answer is: we stop resisting the notion that they are there! Just as you talk about in your last post. We take a step sideways from “normal thinking” and allow ourselves to remember who we are. We decide to never let fear be a motivation for any of our actions, but instead to always act from love. This includes loving ourselves enough to let the resistance to expressing ourselves fall away, to allow our Divine Selves to rise to the surface and explore life’s mysteries with all the enthusiasm and passion that we had when we were small.

That really does involve letting go of the rope: the rope that our ego clutches onto so tightly, afraid of what might happen if we don’t stick to the ways we learned at school. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it, every time, because letting go of that rope brings a deep, deep breath of relief. And pretty soon afterwards we realize that the most important thing about playing the Great Game of Life is not to try to WIN it, it’s to help each other to regain the freedom to come out to play!

Keep shining brightly over there in sunny Austin, Gaye. It’s what we’re all here to do…

With love and best wishes,


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De-stressing Any Situation: Letting Go Of The Rope

Dear Gaye,

Firstly, what a perfect dream to receive! As you know, I do a lot of work with/in the alpha-brainwave, which is the bandwidth within which all dreams take place. I believe that we can create through our dreams as much as we can learn from them. But let’s move on to the main issue here, which is one that is so common for all of us: resisting a situation.

Here’s a quote from your last post that sums it up:

I could choose to struggle or I could ask for help and not struggle. But was that really the issue here? What was more at stake was an attachment to being the one that could pull this off and save some money. The attachment was causing the struggle in the first place.

Bingo! That last line is a key for us all. Here’s why:

One of the guidelines in our course Natural Wealth, the New and Updated Instruction Manual to the Great Game of Life, is the Law of Non-Resistance. This law teaches us to leave behind any attachment to outcome. This is a really important step in our quest for wealth in all its forms, especially health and peace of mind.

The Law of Non-Resistance reminds us that to be truly successful we must learn to be as non-resistant as the newest of non-stick saucepans!

Getting attached to an outcome means that we run the risk of disappointment or frustration when the outcome is different to the one we have gotten attached to. This invariably leads to anger and stress. And stress is the biggest creator of heart disease. So, it’s really important to figure this one out.

Being attached to an outcome really means that we’re trying to push things a certain way. On some level we’re saying: “This is the way it has to be!” That’s an ego-driven thought, which is not going to get us far on the board of the Great Game of Life.

One of my favorite films is The Truman Show. I like it for plenty of reasons (the soundtrack being one of them!) but mostly because it’s such a good analogy of how things are for us as we shake off the methods that we were taught at school and start playing the Great Game instead.

It’s always the same cycle: initial denial, followed by frustration, followed by anger, followed by acceptance. One of the most haunting yet beautiful scenes in any film is right towards the end, when Jim Carrey’s boat rips into the painted scenery that circumscribes his fake world. There’s no going back after that: no denial possible. He can’t resist the truth any longer.

The funny thing is, when we choose to stop struggling against something (and it IS a choice) life becomes a whole load easier. It was only when you detached yourself from the outcome you thought you wanted that another outcome presented itself: an easy outcome with no stress!

The trick is to do this all the time. But how?

Well, one way is to throw your hands in the air and say out loud: “OK! Your way, not my way!” That’s the simplest way I know of handing a situation over to the Divine/Infinite Intelligence. “God’s way, not my way” is fine too: whatever it takes to detach yourself from a projected outcome, to remove ego from the equation.

Another way is to remind yourself that it’s only when we resist something that it can have an adverse affect on us. That’s because resistance is always born of fear (in this case the fear of not having the money to pay someone else to do the task in hand) and acting through fear can only ever have a detrimental affect.

Think about it in terms of the human body and health. When our systems are operating smoothly, we are healthy. Blood pumps consistently from the heart, zooming out through our arteries and back in through our veins. At the same time, electricity moves seamlessly through each cell. So does magnetic current. There is no resistance in the system. When we’re healthy, we are literally “going with the flow”.

It’s only when something comes along to stop this seamless flow (usually a thought-based reaction) that we become dis-eased. The flow is broken and a malfunction occurs. Resistance is the cause of all physical ailments. It’s the cause of all anger and frustration too.

Knowing this is all very well when we’re calm, but how do we translate this knowledge to taking action on a daily basis? What if we’re standing in the queue at Walmart and it’s not moving? We’re running late for a meeting and we can feel the blood pressure begin to rise? What if we’re driving the kids to school and they’re screaming and shouting in the back and we feel the urge to shout at them to “Shut UP!”? What if someone we love says something that really hurts us and we instantly feel angry?

What do we do to make sure we don’t resist these sorts of situations on a moment by moment basis?

The first thing we can do is accept that we have a choice: to react or not to. That puts the power back in our hands. The second thing is to find an image that really works for us: a shortcut to de-stress away from distress.

Here’s something I’ve found useful. See these moments of potential stress as a game of tug-of-war. You are holding one end of the rope and whoever or whatever is causing you frustration is holding the other. If you pull on the end of the rope, that someone/thing will pull back. The harder you pull, the harder they’ll pull too. Only when you let go of the rope, when you stop resisting, does the person/situation that has been causing problems lose its hold over you. There’s nothing for them to pull against, so they fall away. Easily.

So, if “You’re way, not my way!” doesn’t do it for you, try saying out loud: “I’m letting go of this rope!” In your mind see yourself literally holding on to that rope. See who or what is at the other end. Then just toss your end of the rope away. Do it with a smile and I guarantee you’ll feel better for it. The stress will escape from your body and a new outcome will be delivered to you: one that is far more rewarding…

Next time I’m going to talk a little more about this, because it’s such an important part of enjoying The Great Game of Life, but for now, have a great weekend!

Love and best wishes,