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Simple Acts of Kindness

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Thank you to “Two Cannoli” for taking this great picture (The bluebonnets have particular meaning as they are wild here in Austin, Texas!) and for understanding that it only takes a second to notice an act of kindness done to you….or be aware of when an act of kindness can be offered to another.

That means we have all the time in the world to offer and receive acts of kindness.  Do you think the world would be a different place if we committed not only to doing something that scares us every day, but also to notice when kindness has been offered to us and openly appreciate it, as well as be aware of when we can offer a simple act of kindness to another.

Sometimes the best are when you are least expecting it, or those secret ones where you will never know who the agent of kindness was!

Each of us knows how it feels to receive an act of kindness.  It could be as simple as someone letting you onto a crowded road, a smile passing on the street,  or going the extra step to offer service above and beyond what is expected.  Over the past few days I have been the recipient as well as the giver of acts of kindness.  I am particularly aware of them as a grand leap was taken last week by quitting a job and choosing instead to immerse myself in my own business.  A somewhat stressful time yes, but because of this giving and receiving of kindness I am particularly aware of how very blessed I am!  That has taken my attention!

The day after I quit my job I took myself to the nearest office supply store in order to get a new business calendar (no I don’t have a smart phone etc – I actually do it the “old fashioned way”) to plan and vision on.  This store is a chain store and often times you don’t expect the type of service you might find in a smaller privately owned establishment.  However, within the space of the 10 minutes I was in there I was asked by 3 people whether they could help me find what I was looking for and smiles were exchanged each time.  The crowning glory was the check out woman who first apologized for my having to wait for a minute or so and then while she was checking out my purchases we exchanged a very personal and loving dialog.

Her smile was huge as she said to me, “it is good to see you back again.  I just saw you 2 days ago right?” and when I said no she told me “you have the kind of face everyone wants to remember!”  As I shared with her that I had just quit a job the day before and was heading into being my own boss, she gave me a high 5 and said “don’t give up!”  A few more comments were exchanged and then it was time  for me to leave the register.  I looked in her eyes and thanked her for her attention, service and kindness and we both felt the love exchanged between two complete strangers.

kindness2Then yesterday it was my turn.  I was doing my regular lap swimming and no one else was in my lane.  Near the end of my time in the pool I looked up and there was a father with his young daughter about age 8 or so.  I asked if she wanted to share the lane with me.  At first hesitant she jumped in at her father’s urging.  I watched her swim beside me and noted that she was an amazing swimmer for her age.  When I got back to the end of the lane they had changed to an open lane so that the father could be beside her.  As her father jumped in I called out “your daughter is a great swimmer”!  He didn’t hear me, but she did as she kick boarded her way down the adjoining lane.  The smile and thank you she gave me were brilliant!

Today it was time to receive and give as I was given service above and beyond the norm when a computer at the local Fed Ex store would not print my documents.  Then I was able to give a simple act of kindness by stopping by a local herb/vitamin pharmacy to purchase some natural products for a very dear friend who has poison ivy creeping all over her body and drop them off at her house.

Though this has been an incredibly challenging post trauma growth period for me over the last week these simple acts of kindness given and received have reminded me that this is what life is about.  Our connection with others is always there.  We always have the choice to expand our awareness outwardly in a way that says “I care” and “I appreciate you”!  The opportunities are limitless!

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Fully Present and Making A Difference!

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Our journey is all unknown until we find ourselves fully present in the moment of it.  It is at those times that we find a power so deeply embedded within us that it is simply a part of who we are.  However, we often forget this.

Last week an inspiring video came my way that you can access below. It speaks volumes to the creative potential, ingenuity, and passion that arises when each individual brings their uniqueness to the table while supporting the whole.  As the conductor of this very unique orchestra, Luis Szaran declares, “Music is the smile of the soul ….and a bridge between worlds for social transformation.”

As you will see trash becomes music.  Playing melodies made out of trash that moves peoples hearts is a testament to the wise statement above – “You had the power all along…”   Take some time to watch Landfill Harmonic and see where it leads you!

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Making Connections

“My hope and wish is that one day, formal education will pay attention to what I call “education of the heart.” Just as we take for granted the need to acquire proficiency in the basic academic subjects, I am hopeful that a time will come when we can take it for granted that children will learn, as part of the curriculum, the indispensability of inner values: love, compassion, justice, and forgiveness.”  The Dalai Lama

Dear Gaye,

I love the story in your last post. What a great reminder to us all that it’s when we engage with others that real magic happens!

Imagine how different our world would be if the daily news covered tales like this, focusing on the millions of instances of people connecting with each other that happen every day, rather than all the doom and gloom. I really don’t think it would take long for a big shift to happen: a shift from fear to faith.

I’ve just relocated back to England (for a while) and have noticed how wary people are of each other here in comparison to Southern Ireland. Like you, I tend to chat with people, giving them a smile and engaging in whatever topic pops into my head. It always leads somewhere interesting.

The other day I was in a long queue at the post office. In front of me was a young mother with her small boy, of maybe 6 or 7 years old. Hanging around in queues is deadly dull for small children (I remember it well!) and he was getting bored, singing “Let it snow!” louder and louder to get attention. I bent down and started chatting with him. Do you think it’ll snow this Christmas? Yes, I hope so: that sort of thing.

Then I realized that his Mom was looking at me with alarm. Her eyes said: “Who is this strange man? Why is he talking with my son? What does he want?” I looked her right in the eye and simply said “It’s ok, I have three kids of my own,” at which point she softened and we carried on chatting, all three of us, whilst the queue got shorter. We didn’t have the spectacular results that you and your artist friend did, but a moment of fear was transformed into a few minutes of connection.

And that, to me, is what this time in our evolution is all about: transforming fear of difference into moments of connection. Yes, we’re all unique, but we’re all pretty much the same underneath, with 99.99% of our genome being shared by each one of us across the globe.

By nature, we are all one. And we know it. Put a group of two year olds in a room and leave them to it and they get on just fine, no matter what color, creed or social background they’re from. We’re genetically predisposed to connect.

It’s only later, when we go to school and start to listen to what our friends and parents tell us, that we start to see others as different. They myth of separation begins to kick in and pretty soon we start making judgements that set “us” aside from “them”. And that’s where the problems come in. Squabbles over differences lead to arguments on a minor scale, wars on a major one.

We’re heading towards Christmas, a time when we direct our attention towards giving and sharing, when we’re encouraged to display our innate sense of empathy. I wonder, though, whether each of us can make a commitment to bringing that sense of empathy into every day of our lives, sharing a smile, offering help whenever we can, doing what we can to bridge the perceived divides?

I think we can. It doesn’t have to be in huge, grand gestures (although those are just fine too!). We can all do a little bit, each day. And each little bit mounts up. And the shift begins.

For me, there’s no such thing as separation. What I feel, you feel. What happens to animals, plants, to the earth itself, happens to me too. That’s the beauty of it. We’re all in this together.

Namaste,

Richard.

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Learning How To Dance In The Rain

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass…
it’s about learning how to dance in the rain”  ~Unknown Author

Dear Richard,

Something very powerful happened to me last week.  This “something” has been unfolding itself over the last month or more in a rather “stormy” time when I am TRUSTING that my bank account will soon see streams of income flowing in based on the heart and creative centered actions that I am taking one step at a time.

Instead of contracting into scarcity it was my decision to change my mindset – as you Richard so eloquently spoke of in your last post – and to “dance in the rain” instead.  My dancing had to do with a regular “street person” that I see frequently as I take the same route to places that I frequent.

Mother Theresa once said, “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echos are truly endless”.   I believe that words, actions, smiles, creative, spontaneous, and anonymous acts of kindness and generosity all contribute to being the change we wish to see in the world.

There are opportunities all around us. Perhaps you see the person with a sign, standing on the median divider on a road well traveled, as someone who has a story to tell and gifts to give.

Who are they? What set of circumstances lead to their being there?  Do you roll up your window and pretend that you are busily engaged, or do you acknowledge them with a smile or a wave, or deeper yet as a whole human being who has needs just like you do and gifts to share.  Do you engage in conversation while you wait for the light to change?

One day I was curious about just such a person.  His name is Joseph and his sign is a little different.  He holds a picture of a friend that he has drawn and calls himself a disabled artist.  Not satisfied to just give him money, I wanted to know his story.  What transpired over a period of about 6 weeks was a back and forth dialog in which I challenged him to draw a self portrait which I would pay him for.

Result?  We looked forward to seeing each other when I passed by and there were always a few words shared and stories told about the project that I had given him.  When he came up against a perceived “roadblock” to completing this assignment we mutually brainstormed about how to get around it.

The day Joseph presented me with the piece – I parked near by and walked to the place where he stood – I was amazed at the skill and creative genius that was captured in the stunning self portrait that captured his essence.  I handed him the money that I had promised.  In return he was so elated to have this creative gift received in such a positive way that not only was a hug forthcoming, but there was a promise of more art to come.

Now I may never really know what impact this has made in his life, but for me I felt so much gratitude for the self-portrait and the meaning behind it. This person is making the best of his life and not willing to give up on the artistic gift that he has been given.  I received from him the courage to keep taking my steps no matter what the outward monetary circumstances may be in my own life.

I might add that when I said to him one day passing by, before he finished the picture, that I knew it was more of a challenge to do a self-portrait, he said to me – “I like a challenge”.  And he did!

Now, if I would have never engaged him in the first place out of a place of curiosity directed from the heart, then none of this would have happened.  The day that we exchanged portrait for money – all forms of energy – I felt more open and receptive to what my own life was calling me to do.

Next time there is a “storm” in my life I will be looking for the dance steps to take certain that the echos of my footsteps will be endless….will you?

With Love,

Gaye

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