Author Archives: Gaye Abbott
Loss and Possibility: Change the Conversation
About a month or so ago my right knee was talking to me so loudly that I sought a medical evaluation. Over the last 6 months there were abundant signs that something was not quite right, however the ever youthful and positive attitude I have about life kept me from putting much importance on a few aches, pain and swelling that came and went.
In December it became very clear that something significant was going on that needed attending to. Thus the primary care doctor, the x-rays, MRI and then Orthopedic Surgeon and Physical Therapist. Now I am “married” to twice weekly physical therapy sessions, exercise and stretching that are literally a part time job!
The cause of all this effort? A torn lateral meniscus and osteoarthritis that has taken up residence in this oft used and important joint.
Beyond the physical findings and implications of this particular situation what I want to explore in this post to all of you is how our conversations – internally and externally – can keep us in loss and victimhood while keeping us stuck or take us into possibility.
A wise indigenous Lakota Sioux once said that the Earth is perfect but we are just having bad conversations. That can be said as well for the conversations we have with ourselves and others when we are experiencing the unending shifts, changes, challenges and crises that affect our daily life moments.
If ego was running the show here is what my conversations might be based in the loss:
I am getting old and am going to just go downhill from here.
What if it gets worse and I can’t walk anymore?
I will just have to live with the pain, discomfort and limitation.
The doctor and physical therapist took away everything that I love to do – walking for exercise, dance, and a great deal of my yoga practice!
I am never going to be the “same” again.
Well you get the picture!
Here are conversations based in possibility arising from simply being with the situation the way it is in the moment:
Yes, my favorite activities have been temporarily halted while I rehabilitate the knee and I will indeed miss them. I am curious about what other activities I can do, or learn to do, while I am going through physical therapy.
I see that through this rehabilitation I will learn a lot more about how my knees function and other factors that led to this break down besides the fact of aging. I am going to do some research.
I bet that I will be stronger and more fit as a result of these efforts. I will rejoin the YMCA to assist with the rehabilitation. That means I can start swimming laps again which I love!
My 50+ and Thriving yoga class at the University of Texas started right after being told of my limitations. Let’s see how I can teach effectively without doing some of the poses and movements I am restricted in right now. I can use someone that has some yoga experience for a demonstration model. I will master my auditory teaching which will allow me to physically assist my students more often. Plus I will gain knowledge about yoga for osteoarthritis and proper alignment of knees in movement.
I am certain you feel the difference energetically in conversations based in loss and those based in possibility. One is remaining in the state of victim and the other is based in taking effective action. This does not mean that there is no place for grieving a loss. That is vitally important to give space for so that opening into possibility can occur. There lies the difference in simply positive thinking, which often disregards the need to grieve.
All of the conversations above based in possibility were actually what transpired for me during this last month. I have learned over the last year or so that taking effective action one step at a time, even when I have never done something, keeps me in a place of being and trusting the unfolding of life moments versus floundering in the rigid conversations of ego based in “certainty”.
Now I can’t say that I didn’t go into the ego/personal conversations above for a few hours after I learned of my diagnosis and temporary limitations, but those conversations felt so contracted in my body and without possibility that they were quickly left behind.
There is no doubt that each of us, our loved ones, as well as our planet will continue to face challenges. I would like to have a bumper sticker that says:
CHANGE THE CONVERSATIONS!
______________________________________
NATURAL PASSAGES CONSULTING
Inspiring New Possibilities, Living From the Heart of Life While Co-creating Well Being of Body, Being, Heart and Planet….One Breath At A Time
Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to dissolve the layers that cover the natural flows of energy we came in with and reveal, through a combination of the energy medicine of Jin Shin Jyutsu, yoga therapy and breath re-patterning, and as spiritual mentor/guide/coach, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.
For those interested in receiving private sessions or for mentoring via Skype or in person please contact Gaye at: JoyfulGaye@NaturalPassages.com. Travel to your location in the U.S. or globally is available. Please inquire.
OTHER BLOGS BY GAYE ABBOTT:
www.BreathingSpaces.net
www.WildlyFreeWoman.com
Give Us This Day Our Daily Breath Preview, Reviews and purchase links can be found here:
Soul Musings/Day 30: Reflection of Light
Light is born from the dark
Arising from cracks in the Universe
Covered by a soft mantle of energy
Vibrating to create something extraordinary
In a brief moment matter blinks
Moving from light to dark….and back again
The mystery remaining untold
Reflected in the majestic uncertainty of unfolding life
_______________________________________________________________________
NATURAL PASSAGES CONSULTING
Inspiring New Possibilities, Living From the Soul of Life While Co-creating Well Being of Body, Being, Heart and Planet….One Breath At A Time
Soul Musings is a 31-day practice for the month of December immersed in deep listening to what is emerging and unfolding day by day. Eight sentences with occasional resources to explore more deeply.
Each post, invited by Soul, allows the words to emerge unscathed from prior planning, editing, or censorship. Dwelling in uncertainty and dipping a toe into mystery this union of words is an attempt to resonate within an innate way of Being…. returning “home”.
To receive daily posts simply sign up for this blog and you will be notified through e-mail. In addition there will be daily posts on the blogs below. Thank you for being part of this practice with me!
Gaye Abbott – http://www.GayeAbbott.com
OTHER BLOGS:
Give Us This Day Our Daily Breath Preview, Reviews and purchase links can be found here:
Soul Musings/Day 26: Embracing The Sacred In Everyday Life
“Eternity can be touched in the present moment,
and the cosmos in the palm of your hand.”
Thich Nhat Hahn, 3/18/2012
Such a daunting task to write on the scared in everyday life in 8 sentences! Or so it seems to the one (me) that simply does not recognize each letter, word and sentence as already sacred.
Thich Nhat Hahn has been an inspiring presence in my life for many, many years. Presently he remains in a coma….breathing quietly and seemingly at peace to those that are around him.
I would like to imagine that he is kissing the earth with his feet and is swimming in the infinite realms of the cosmos. That even in the depths of a coma he continues to teach us that every part of our lives is sacred.
Even the moments where we rest potentially so close to our last breath.
Light a candle today as a reminder that it is all sacred.
_____________________________________________________________________
NATURAL PASSAGES CONSULTING
Inspiring New Possibilities, Living From the Soul of Life While Co-creating Well Being of Body, Being, Heart and Planet….One Breath At A Time
Soul Musings is a 31-day practice for the month of December immersed in deep listening to what is emerging and unfolding day by day. Eight sentences with occasional resources to explore more deeply.
Each post, invited by Soul, allows the words to emerge unscathed from prior planning, editing, or censorship. Dwelling in uncertainty and dipping a toe into mystery this union of words is an attempt to resonate within an innate way of Being…. returning “home”.
To receive daily posts simply sign up for this blog and you will be notified through e-mail. In addition there will be daily posts on the blogs below. Thank you for being part of this practice with me!
Gaye Abbott – http://www.GayeAbbott.com
OTHER BLOGS:
Give Us This Day Our Daily Breath Preview, Reviews and purchase links can be found here:
Soul Musings/Day 24: Heart Opening
The greatest possibilities lay in wait as a human heart is freed to open. Speaking language that is birthed from a clear and open space of stillness – of Being.
A space that speaks not of what we have done, but of who we are in our highest expression. Nor of the accomplishments we have on our resume, but the ways we have made a prayer of listening to another.
Every moment is an opportunity to love if we would just breathe into the possibility of connection. Allowing vulnerability to flourish instead of hiding.
Knowing that in our humanness we have been given a gift beyond imagining.
A gift to give until the end of time….
____________________________________________________________________
NATURAL PASSAGES CONSULTING
Inspiring New Possibilities, Living From the Soul of Life While Co-creating Well Being of Body, Being, Heart and Planet….One Breath At A Time
Soul Musings is a 31-day practice for the month of December immersed in deep listening to what is emerging and unfolding day by day. Eight sentences with occasional resources to explore more deeply.
Each post, invited by Soul, allows the words to emerge unscathed from prior planning, editing, or censorship. Dwelling in uncertainty and dipping a toe into mystery this union of words is an attempt to resonate within an innate way of Being…. returning “home”.
To receive daily posts simply sign up for this blog and you will be notified through e-mail. In addition there will be daily posts on the blogs below. Thank you for being part of this practice with me!
Gaye Abbott – http://www.GayeAbbott.com
OTHER BLOGS:
Give Us This Day Our Daily Breath Preview, Reviews and purchase links can be found here: