Category: Finding Peace


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“For only by living in our own element can we thrive without anxiety”.  Mark Nepo

A very large part of living in human form is to wake up to our inherent true nature and accept the gifts and awareness that we have been given.  We each walk a unique path, however the deep interconnection with all life allows us to view what it may be like to walk in another person’s shoes – or bare feet as the case may be.

A large part of the pandemic “anxiety” that engulfs the world at this time in our history comes from not only disrespecting others particular path, but at our very core not accepting our own.  How is it to live a life that others are dictating, instead of listening deeply to one’s own calling.  Courageously saying yes to the steps that it takes to express this one precious life – the joy of being human.

Let me tell you a story to demonstrate just a little of what I am talking about.  For the last year and few months I entered back into the world of medicine after making a clear decision in 2011 that I was complete with that particular pathway in which to bring my gifts.  Much was learned during this year as I became a  part of the launching of a new family practice.  However, the reasons that I stepped back into this field were mostly based in fear.

Fear that I would not be able to support myself financially if left to walk my own unique road.  A road that was riskier and filled with uncertainty, but also filled with immense possibility.  A road that I now know contains the peaceful abiding that Buddhist philosophy and practice speak to.  A road that offers the immense joy of giving to others in a way that makes their life better through the arts of writing, teaching/guiding/facilitation, heart centered activism, breath practice, and the laying of my hands on people in healing and transforming ways.

Within the “stress” of being back in the medical world lay the gift of awareness that I had forsaken my own road.  This was a vital part of coming back home to a path that only I can walk, only I can express, and only I can learn from.  Taking on someone else’s path is perhaps as dangerous as judging and not accepting others for their own.

Our potential is to become totally happy.  How do we find our way there?  Poet and philosopher Mark Nepo says:

This is not about being a poet or a florist or a doctor or a layer or an architect.  It is about the true vitality that waits beneath all occupations for us to tap into, if we can discover what we love.  If you feel energy and excitement and a sense that life is happening for the first time, you are probably near your God-given nature.  Joy in what we do is not an added feature; it is a sign of deep health”.  (The Book of Awakening, pg. 294)

Staying awake is the path to walking in our own element….

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Dear Brave Souls: Rest your mind and body by gazing upon symmetry that is so beautiful. The neurons in our brains and bodies fire and remember peace and order when gazing on peace and order, in this case pattern that holds, yet sways so 394934_565203466827507_1552033351_nbeautifully. You heard what I said: our bodies and minds remember peace when we gaze on peace. “- Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Whether it be a “Ta Da” life moment list of milestones and accomplishments, insights, new knowledge, and self-revelations  from the year just past, done as a ritual as a new year dawns….or a way of breathing that releases anxiety and brings peace,  self value and awareness to the moment…there is no doubt that what we all need more of this coming year is a sense of peace and deep rest within our minds, bodies and 184453_536096156408173_1154827173_nhearts.

Nature and art in all of its varied forms is ever at our disposal to bring us not only a respite from the business and chaos of our

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lives, but a reminder of who we are at our very core.

Be still, gaze upon the creations that are all around you.  Be at peace knowing that you have been brought here for a purpose that is interconnected with all that is around you.  If we can drink deeply of these myriad of gifts….then there is hope for our present moment and the moments to come

Happy New Year from Resonance With Life!!

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Living without Shame

Dear Gaye,

I love the quotation from Milarepa. “Act so that you have no cause to be ashamed of yourself, and hold fast to this rule” is such a good foundation for life.

I believe that when we follow the promptings of our hearts, we never do anything to be ashamed of. And yet shame and guilt play such a big part in so many people’s lives, always with a negative impact. Why is this?

None of us feel ashamed of ourselves when we’re young. We’re born comfortable with who we are, happy to run around naked in the rain or on a beach with never a care in the world. We don’t judge ourselves with the language of shame. We do what comes naturally and say what’s on our mind without any of the constraints we obey later in life. We’re honest, bright creatures, born with integrity.

So where does shame come in? It must be that we are taught it. We learn the word “ugly” and along the way we start to feel less confident about our bodies. We start to judge ourselves by other people’s standards of achievement. We become self-critical, instead of loving us for who we are.

That’s why I think the phrase “original sin” is such a terrible one. It suggests that our origins themselves are to be ashamed of, which is the opposite of the truth.

Mostly this affects us how we look at ourselves physically. How many of us are truly happy with our bodies when we become adults? How many of us are truly comfortable with our sexuality? If we were truly happy with our bodies, would we ever consider botox, face-lifts or implants?

It seems to me the media teaches us to judge our bodies negatively, instead of enjoying their beauty. Worse still, we’ve been taught that sexual desires are something to feel bad about. Just look at the language. Having a “dirty weekend away” really means taking a break from our busy schedules to spend time loving our partners. How different it would be if we were to take a “healthy weekend away” instead!

It’s no coincidence that the notion of “dirtiness” is also linked to money: hence we talk of the “stinking rich” or “filthy rich” rather than the shiningly-clean rich! Men particularly are taught to feel guilty if they are not earning sufficient quantities to meet social perceptions of wealth. The shame surrounding this can be so acute that people will take their own lives rather than continue to live in “failure”.

So how do we rid ourselves of these learned attitudes of shame?

For Milarepa the solution was to live alone in a cave high in the mountains. Here he ate whatever grew nearby and practised metaphysics to such a high level that he is said to have put his hand into the rocky cave wall in order to prove his mastery of the world to a doubting disciple. I have not been there, but am told that you can visit this cave and place your hand into the indentation where Milarepa did this.

Yet, most of us can’t simply up-sticks and head off into the hills. We have obligations. And besides, the life of a hermit is not for everyone.

I do believe that we can all rid ourselves of shame, though. We just have to appeal to our inner beauty, to remember the Divine Self that resides within us all. That Divine Self, shining and confident and free, is who we truly are. We knew it when we were young. We just have to remind ourselves of its presence within us – and within everyone else.

The simplest way to do this is to look at ourselves in the mirror, holding our own gaze until the physical melts away and we connect with the spirit inside.

On top of that, if we start each day by saying: “I am a Divine Idea in body, mind and spirit” this helps to shift the balance. And when we add the simple phrase: “I love myself for who I am” we direct ourselves back onto our Divine Path.

On that path we meet neither guilt nor shame.

The trick is to do this every day, again and again, until the learned behaviours are truly washed away.

My best wishes, as ever, Richard.

 

Dear Gaye,

“Where your attention goes, your energy flows” is a personal mantra of mine. It’s a foundation principle for us all, because we really do create success or failure depending on where we put our attention.

As you say, avoiding pain is built deep into our fight-or-flight response mechanisms, but if we become focused on what’s causing us pain, we simply create more of it. The trick is to shift our attention from what is causing disturbance in our lives to a desired outcome. Doing this directs our thoughts away from the negative and moves them into an arena where they are free to play and have fun instead.

That sounds really simple and it is, but it’s not always easy!

Most of us have friends or relatives who direct our attention (and therefore energy) toward the negative. Most of us pay attention to the news bulletins on our radios, television sets or Ipads/phones; and the more attention we pay to those things, the worse we feel. We can even make ourselves “sick with worry” about “how bad everything is”.

So we have to get strict with ourselves and those around us. We have to step in and stop something when it becomes obvious that it’s putting our attention toward something that is dragging our energy down.

With friends it can be a simple process of redirecting the conversation towards something else. With the media, it’s a case of tuning out, switching off the endless stream of debilitating words, images and sounds that makes up 99% of all current-affairs/news items.

Just starting with those two simple shifts in behaviour will make a big difference.

On a wider level seeking out sustainable forms of wealth means broadening our approach. In our definition of wealth, we include money, health, love, perfect self expression and spiritual wellbeing. Those are the five elements of Natural Wealth that you and I talk about at www.resonancewithlife.com. It’s important to put our attention equally to all five, because that leads to being fed and nurtured in a truly balanced way.

To answer your specific question about how we deal with coming changes and possible collapses of whole banking systems: my personal view is that although things appear to be calmer right now, we’re on course for hitting a major ice-berg.

We’re already seeing a systematic devaluing of the dollar and euro and this process will continue. It could be that both currencies have to be completely scrapped and re-started (as the Deutschmark was in Germany last century) which would mean a huge re-adjustment for us all.

Something major will have to happen. Western banks can’t continue to add billions to the coffers, because those billions don’t really exist. It’s a confidence trick: nothing more, nothing less. At some point the “toxic” derivative issue will rear its head and then a real panic could set in.

How to deal with this? As ever, do what few people are doing. Buy what is being sold off and sell anything that ties you to any potential banking collapse. To me this means putting attention towards “real” wealth builders, such as gold and silver and rare metals. Real estate in some places will be a good bet too (again, thinking outside the box, and keeping an eye on where China and Russia are putting their money will help).

Aside of that, shifting the emphasis of wealth from being simply about material gain always helps. Keeping our bodies fit, allowing our creative sides to find expression, spending time with loved-ones: all these are just as important as the pursuit of money – and will set us in good stead should our currencies be devalued.

Think of it this way: money is just one form of currency. Health, love, friendship, creation and laughter are also forms of currency. They’re similar exchanges of energy. And they pay us back in ways that are equally nourishing (if not more).

How do we measure our lives? What are our yardsticks of success? Is what we are currently paying attention to adding to our vitality or depleting it?

Those are questions for each of us to answer. As we seek those answers we can remind ourselves that wherever our attention goes, our energy will flow. So, it pays dividends to pay attention to what we are paying attention to!

And I think it also pays to remember that: “Not all the gold of the richest kings is worth the memory of happy things.”

Until next time,

Best wishes,

Richard.

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Dear Gaye,

What we focus on expands. I’ve found this to be so true not just in my life, but working with clients too.

For instance: a little while ago I had a client who, although very successful was very unsettled. He didn’t have any big trauma going on in his life, nor did he have something “deeply buried” from his past that was causing him pain. But he was sleeping badly, not able to focus and generally anxious and on edge for much of the time. In other words he was stressed.

This is a common thing for many of us right now. The pace of life is hectic and the world moves with ever-increasing speed. Pebbles (our feelings, thoughts and actions) are dropped into the pond each nano-second (by us and by others) and their ripples meet each other so often that interference-patterns can be created.

With this particular client I simply suggested that he stop watching television for a week. “Put your focus onto pretty much anything else. Give your mind and body time to relax.” I then explained how television ratchets up tension in the body rather than relaxing us as so many people think it does.

About a month later I heard from my him. “Thanks so much, Richard,” he said. “I stopped watching TV like you suggested and the transformation is just amazing. I’ve started walking in nature again, I spend time in my garden, I read books…and my wife and I are talking like we haven’t talked in years. It’s like I suddenly have my life back!” Bingo!

Over the past five years or so I’ve seen a huge rise in the number of people who are coming to me suffering from intense stress. It’s a big problem and is now the commonest cause of heart disease (the biggest killer) in the West. Here’s one theory on why this might be.

We live in an age of over-stimulation. Teen-age years have become screen-age years, with our kids spending several hours per day on gaming consoles or squinting at their portable devices. Screens seem to greet us everywhere we go with messages of terrible things happening all across the globe. The virtual world is fast encroaching on the real one. You only have to get off a plane to see what 90% of people do as soon as possible: turn on the cell phone!

Facebook, Twitter, Blogs and emails bombard us each and every second of the day. If we’re not careful we can get subtly drawn into returning to the screen more and more often. We just can’t seem to help ourselves. We feel we just have to send out another tweet, rush to reply to our Facebook comments or check the stats on our blogs etc.

It’s addictive. And the more we pay attention to it, the more stressed we become. And the more stressed we become, the more agitated are the ripples we that send out on the pond, which means we spread stress to others.

One of the prime side-effects of this addiction is loneliness. People spend increasing amounts of time on their own. And even if they are taking part in an online community activity, this is no substitute for real relationships in the three-dimensional world. Loneliness and isolation are racing up the charts when it comes to causes of stress-related illness. The results are plain for all to see. A few years back I predicted that one of the fastest-growing businesses in the coming decade will be “Screen-Disorder Rehab Units”. It’s happening as we speak.

So how do we deal with the bombardment? One way is to take time each day to ourselves. Give ourselves a platform firmly based in something that rests heart, body and mind. If we can find time in nature so much the better. It’s a known fact that simply thinking about a plant lowers the heart rate and reduces stress.

But getting into nature is not possible for many of us. So what else can we do? Well, we can learn to put our attention to things that feed and nurture us. I don’t just mean going out and playing sport or visiting the gym here. I mean shifting focus so that new areas of life expand. How do we do this? By using our imagination.

Imagination is a real power within us. And its effects are very real. That’s because our subconscious minds cannot tell the difference between real and imagined input. And our subconscious minds are far, far more powerful than our conscious minds.

For example: I have a fear of heights. It’s totally irrational, but try as I might I haven’t been able to fix it. Put me in a car driving along a narrow country lane (something that happens often!) and I’m just fine. Put me in the same car on a lane equally narrow on the side of a mountain with a sheer fall to one side and I’m a gibbering wreck. What makes the difference between the two situations? My imagination. Pure and simple.

I imagine the car falling away down the side of the mountain, I start sweating, my muscles tense up and I feel sick. Logic might shout at me that there’s no reason for this, but that doesn’t matter. My imagination wins the day, every time.

The great thing about this is that we all have imagination. And it’s free! So, we can use it to take us to places where we can relax. We can put our attention onto simple things that help us relax, refresh and heal. If we do this each day it builds up (like going to the gym to workout) and pretty soon we find ourselves able to cope with the daily stressors much better. We’re literally creating our own reality, rather than being pushed around by life.

We are what we put our attention to. Or, as you say: “What we focus on

expands…” And the fun part of that is that, so long as we are not totally addicted to the adrenalin-pumping world of the screen, we can choose where we put that focus.

Imagination is the key. It beats willpower every time.

Where is your attention going? What life are you imagining for yourself, right now?

Love and best wishes,

Richard.

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The Old Man in the Park

Dear Gaye,

This morning’s post is not so much a response to yours as a simple story of an experience I had this morning, although it does link in with our recent thread on receiving messages from what goes on around us.

I’m writing this from the busy metropolis that is Hong Kong where I’m scheduled to speak at a seminar later in the week. I’ve been here before, but it’s always something of a shock to come to a place so full of hustle and bustle when one is used to living in the countryside. I enjoy the contrast, in smallish doses!

This morning I was up and out early walking the streets, when I came upon a small park in the middle of the city: a few trees and some benches, with a handful of birds hopping about collecting their breakfast.

On one of the benches sat an old man, his ring of white hair surrounding a bald head and beneath it a face lined with the experience and wisdom of many summers. As I stood drinking in the early breeze I watched him going through a series of physical movements, slowly, deliberately (Qi Gong). First he swung his right arm out and back, repeating the movement for perhaps 30 seconds. Then the left arm. He then massaged various points on his face. He repeated this routine for some time until eventually he bowed his head in prayer.

Two things struck me as I wandered back to the comforts of my hotel. The first was that I would not have seen this beautiful sight if I had not been up and about early (it was barely 5.00a.m.) which reminded me that unlooked-for opportunities are around every corner, but that we only happen upon them when we give ourselves the chance to. Had I been tucked up in bed, or watching TV, or simply working on my laptop, I would have missed the messages of my morning walk.

The second was that peace, so often portrayed as something passive, is something to be actively practiced, especially in today’s world where everything seems to happen faster and faster and there seem to be barely enough hours in the day. I believe peace is is an essential part of wealth, because without it we have no foundation, no real sense of belonging here. Without it we cannot open up to what you called The Spirit of Breath in your last post. The Breath of Life.

How do we find peace in ourselves? For me, it is in the daily practice of the Spirit Level Technique: a combination of ancient teachings and modern day science that I have learned, adapted and practice each and every day. For this old man it was to find a relatively quiet corner within a busy city and follow his own particular routine.

What we do is perhaps not as important as the doing of it. Peace, like any other sensation, is to be explored, fingered, touched, tasted, heard, smelled and seen so that it becomes a part of our daily lives. And the more we practice the doing of it, the easier it becomes to feel it in our lives.

A third message was brought to me from seeing this old man sitting on a bench in a park in Hong Kong, which is this: no matter what our surroundings, we can find and feel peace when we choose to do so. Here was an old man sitting surrounded by high-rise buildings. The fumes of cars and the dust of the city swirled around him. Yet here he was, his head bowed in prayer, giving thanks for the breaking of a new day.

Let’s leave him there, as I did, with a smile of gratitude of our own. And let’s make the decision to make finding peace just as active a part of our lives as finding new incomes streams, improving our physical health, or sharing a smile with a loved one.

With love and best wishes,

Richard

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