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Firstly, I applaud your decision to “jump in” and speak your truth in the way you have. That can’t have been easy.
It’s a funny old world. There’s a big debate over whether or not we’re programmed to lie about things. I say we’re not. We learn to. And we learn it at a very young age.
When we’re very small (and I mean right back, as tiny babies) we are all totally honest. We look out on the world around us with curiosity and inquisitiveness. We show our carers who we really are. We don’t have hang ups, reluctance, or desires to hide behind masks.
All these things are learned. And the training starts at a very young age. We’re told not to say the things that are on our minds – especially if that involves comments about other people. We’re taught that being honest is “rude” or “unacceptable” in some way. And life becomes so much more complicated as a result.
We start the game of treading on egg shells: never quite sure what is “acceptable” to others, never wishing to cause offence, but at the same time not wishing to stifle our true selves too deeply under the layers of pretence that become normality.
Maybe the middle classes are most guilty of this, because they feel they have something to lose by exposing themselves to the judgements of others. One thing is for sure: what you have done in your latest post is a breath of fresh air. And it will pay dividends.
In one of my e-reports I talk about integrity as the single most important cornerstone of business success. And the watchword of integrity is honesty. So, you’ve drawn a line under those old ways of doing things: which means you are free to start afresh. And my guess is that in opening up like this, in refusing to “hide in safe” you’ll find yourself connecting in a new way with opportunity and reward.
There’s a good reason for this: and it’s back to science. In the course Divine Wealth, which we’ll be releasing soon, I talk about the Law of Resonance: something that informs and affects our reality each and every moment, every day. My personal belief is that for all that’s been written about the Law of Attraction, it doesn’t really exist in the way that most people think it does. It’s not a case of simply “thinking about what you want” and then getting it. We must go deeper than that.
The Law of Resonance is quite simple. You are a finely tuned resonating chamber. So is every cell in your body. You are in a constant state of vibration and whatever frequency you vibrate at is the frequency you emit to the world around you. That frequency is picked up, felt, by others who are resonating at the same frequency.
The trick is to tune yourself to FEEL (rather than think) a certain way, because those feelings then ripple out, like waves on a pond, to reach others. And, like a tuning fork, your frequencies can only create similar vibrations in other tuning forks. So, it’s not really a Law of Attraction: it’s a Law of Resonance that is instrumental in determining what you are experiencing at any given moment. This is true for finances, emotions, health: all forms of what you might call “success”.
By opening up as you have: by taking the leap to be as honest as you were way back when you were tiny, before your education kicked in, you’ll resonate with an integrity that can do only one thing: connect with others resonating in the same way.
Would it be helpful if we looked a little more at the nature of what I call The Conformity Funnel that we are all educated into, before we start to look at ways of breaking free from it?
My best wishes, as ever,
RICHARDS WEBSITE: www.richardcawte.com
OK, I am jumping in here to be first even though I asked Richard some questions in the last post. It has occurred to me this past week that I have not been fully forth coming in these posts. Why?
Because there is still a holding back on what my real nitty gritty journey is here into Divine Wealth. Old patterns die hard sometimes when one is used to being perceived as the independent, strong woman that knows what she is doing (even when she doesn’t). I call this exposing the soft under belly – instead of hiding in “safe”.
You know how there is a lot that goes on “back stage” with the actors, support staff, etc…well, Richard and I carry on conversations apart from this journal that provide rich territory to let go and strip away any pretense that may be getting in the way of stepping into this next “wealth filled” period of life.
This is not to say that Richard doesn’t receive a great deal from my counsel, passion, creativity and generosity of spirit – but what I want to do here is stand naked in front of you and see how it feels. This means I am not attempting to be wise, courageous, an “expert”, teacher, mentor, or guide. I will just be me.
So….this weekend Richard learned another piece of this journey for me. I finally revealed my age to him after hiding behind the pretense of “a woman’s prerogative” and “it is good to be in the mystery sometimes”. There were parts of me that felt if he knew my age that there would be immediate assumptions about my capabilities, possible opportunities, and who knows what else! Now mind you this was all in my head and had nothing to do with Richard.
The fact of the matter is that on the “About” page when we talked about having a conversation between 2 countries, 2 genders, and 2 perspectives….there is also 2 generations! At 62 (and feeling not more than 45!) I am in another generation from Richard and, thank goodness, I am wise enough to know that this will make our dialogue even richer.
So here is the skinny. I am 62, soon to turn 63 in July, and have had money come and go in my life as most of us have. I took a 3 year sabbatical after selling a house in the Bay area of California about 7 years ago now to find out who the heck I was without all of the labels – massage therapist, yoga teacher, partner, mother, retreat facilitator, hug therapist, energy worker, breath guide, entrepreneur/business owner, etc. etc.. (see WildlyFreeWoman for more details if you are interested.)
I slowly “ran out of money” at the tail end of this time, and wanting to start an online resource website for midlife women I moved from my sabbatical area of New England to Oregon to pursue this. Needing money to fund this venture I went back into the medical field dragging my feet, but feeling it necessary.
Now we come to the present. I moved to this area because of friends that were here, and to be closer to my children and granddaughter in California – but I did not move here for me. Now, after working for almost 4 years in conventional medicine and going through a bankruptcy after poor financial decisions in the business I attempted to start – I am ready to let go and move on – inside and outside.
I have been writing weekly as a practice and publishing it to the world for a year now, and am passionately ready to jump into my full potential in life sans the regular “job with benefits” that catches so many people in its grip. I am slowly learning that the freedom that I seek is within me, and the wealth that I seek is also within me.
Something happened to me this week when I was in nature. In those moments I learned to become very still and receive what was right before me. From that experience I was swept through with a peace that gently asked the fear to leave….and it did. This is not to say that there won’t be times that I will need more courage to step forward to take action, but this peace is larger than the fear.
From this place I am practicing a deep letting go, faith that all will be revealed, and trust that wealth is already present in all the ways that will sustain me and then allow me to give back from a deeply nourished being. Two things immediately happened to confirm that I have stepped into the stream that will unfold my future.
News of a tax refund soon to be deposited in my account, and a conversation with a globally connected friend who is inviting me to consider joining her organization to do some administrative work with global experiential service programs for University students. This organization is based in Bali, Indonesia – another “home” for me, and San Francisco – an old home for me.
The other action that was taken prior to all of this happening was to clear and update some old accounts so that the “stream bed” would be open to receive the “wealth flow”. I might ask Richard now about other daily mindset practices or actions that can be integrated to ensure that I stay in the stream and not dam up the flow!
I leave this rather long post (I promise not to be so lengthy in the future, but back story was necessary here) with a piece of writing that speaks to the moments that peace took its place in my heart, and trust in taking action from my intuition and knowing took center stage.
I welcome your comments, inspiration, stories, and questions. This is not only my journey my friends…this is our journey – for it feels to me, at this particular time on our planet, that each of us are under going shifts that will place us in our authentic creative expression in the world – and with each other. Thank you for walking with me a bit on the path!
I stand still.
Still enough that I hear my own breath
moving in and out.
Then it happens.
What seemed to be a rather quiet walk
on a path well know
awakens my senses with a roar of natures sounds.
Frogs, owls, and then…
My stillness becomes greater.
The black and green field beyond suddenly
turning into a cacophony
of sound and movement.
Hundreds of birds lift off with a sound that rocks the soul,
all at the same time,
as if they had an agreement
to the exact timing that flight would take place.
The field no longer holds the black color.
It had been the birds in rest.
As I stand in amazement I watch
as they circle the field.
Some split off in other directions thinning the populous
like mutually agreed upon communities
separating off from the whole,
only to become yet another whole.
Others sit in a nearby tree.
Then, there are those that stay together,
circling until they land at a not so distant spot
from where they had been before.
Was this simply exercise time before dinner?
Or, is this a sacred dance
that has been choreographed for eons
down to the finest of life movements.
As the stillness deepens
I am invited to rest
in the mystery.
At peace…a part of the whole. ( G.A. 3/2/11)
I hear all you say about the big decision you are taking. Jumping off the treadmill is never easy. And the longer we’ve been on it, the harder it is to make that jump. That’s why I always advise people to take that jump in their own time, in whatever way makes them feel comfortable, rather than leaping too soon, when fears may stifle ambitions.
Here are a few thoughts that I hope will help you in the process:
Think back to when you were very young. Were you scared to try new things out then? Did you fear what anyone said to you about what you were doing? My guess is that you weren’t and you didn’t. As a small baby you were happy to fall over with a thump, get back up, fall over, get back up…again and again, until you learned how to walk.
You did the same thing when learning how to talk, repeatedly rolling your tongue around those mysterious sounds that your carers used to communicate with you until you mastered the art of speech. Later on, you did the same thing when learning to write: repeating the motion again and again until the marks on the page matched the letters of whichever alphabet you learned.
There’s a good lesson here.
When we’re young, we just grab hold of each day. We live in the moment. We are happy to make mistakes. It’s a part of our success. And we’re happy to take (what our older selves perceive as) risks. If we didn’t, we’d never learn all those simple things like how to walk, talk, eat, write etc.
My point is this: we are NOT hardwired to stay inside the Conformity Funnel that I talked about last month. We learn this behaviour from our careers, our educators. And any learned behaviour can be unlearned.
Think of it this way: the more you do something, the more familiar it becomes. If that something is a physical action, it becomes easier to repeat it, because the repetition makes it easy for the conscious mind to switch off whilst the subconscious takes over. Not only that: the repetition also settles inside the cells, in what we call muscle-memory. That’s why successful sportsmen and women practice so much. They know that in practicing, they train the body and the mind at the same time.
This can be used in bringing wealth to your doorstep and welcoming it to your home.
Here’s an obvious example: You have a clock on your mantelpiece. It’s been there for years. You are used to glancing at it. It takes no conscious effort. Your body and mind are used to the experience. One day, when you’re re-arranging your living space, you move the clock to a new place. What happens? You find yourself still looking automatically at the mantelpiece, at where the clock used to be, even though your conscious brain knows full well that it’s no longer there! This can go on for weeks, months even, until your subconscious has fully soaked up the fact that the clock is in a new place – and your muscle-memory has been replaced with a new one.
This process I call the BOND – the action of the Body-Mind, where reflexes take you straight to the desired mode of doing something with least effort.
Re-training the brain to know (rather than hope) that wealth is on its way it much the same as moving the clock. Your subconscious will keep directing you to the old way of doing things, until you truly establish a new one. And the best way to do this is to keep repeating the new way until the old one fades.
That’s why it is so important as you embark on a new venture to share your thoughts and ideas only with people who are supportive. So many people like to cast doubt or to criticize, to shake their heads and say “That’s way too risky”. They don’t mean to hold you back, but such reactions invariable direct you to the old way of doing things…to the mantelpiece where the clock no longer is!
So, keep the faith, make sure you share your dreams only with those you know love you and will support you – and start to re-direct your thoughts to new ways of bringing wealth, in all its aspects, into your life. Remember: where your attention goes, your energy flows. So, pay attention to your attention, each and every moment of the day!
My Best Wishes,
Dear Richard -
After receiving this last response, it has come to me in the last few days that I need to change my morning practice, as well as my daily choices and actions, to go along with the shedding of old skins that are rather quickly falling away. Guess it is time for full exposure so to speak!
Feels rather vulnerable being “out” to our readership, but I do truly believe that it is through openly sharing our journeys with each other that we are best supported in becoming all that we are innately meant to be. That being said, this is an open invitation to you, the reader, to speak up and share your thoughts and experiences with us!
These “skins” that I speak of represent the “prose/scientific” Gaye that yearns to be more “poetic” in livelihood and in person; the practical parts that are ready to leap into adventure if given even an imperceptible nod from the whole; and a good Spring cleaning of the rational mind in order, that unearths anything that is not in tune with the heart values, philosophy, humor, and spiritual awareness that have been cultivated over the years – and that are a true reflection of my particular unique being.
Even though this journey of mine right now seems filled with challenges, it is perhaps only in my mind, constructed to “safeguard” me – the organism of Gaye – from “harm”, as ingrained by past experience.
Flashes of insight come often now as actions are considered being taken based on these old “safe” constructs. This insight speaks volumes when the heart whispers “this may not be the best course to take in order to actively embody your full creative authentic expression.” Now, do I listen? Do I grab hold of the moment and live it fully as I did as a child?
I am curious about what you speak of Richard in the BOND process – “the action of the Body-Mind, where “reflexes take you straight to the desired mode of doing something with least effort.”
How does one “Re-train the brain to know (rather than hope) that wealth is on its way?” It feels much deeper than simply repeating affirmations every day, or the endless other ways that are popularized in today’s culture.
It seems to me that this being an “inside job” means being actively present as much as possible to the old way of doing things, and then instead choosing and taking a different action in alignment with Divine Wealth principles.
In fact, many of the “old way of doing things” to me feels stuck and lacking in life energy. These places I call “breathless” because breathing becomes shallow, or I find no breath at all for moments of time? Forgetting to breathe – lifeless! This is always a wake up call!
I have a chocolate-mint scented geranium that has grown so large (in the middle of winter!) that it has asked to be put up on a table inside my house so that I won’t miss it’s message to me every single day – wealth is all there is! Live in your senses and breathe with and from your heart. That is where my attention is going (and growing). …and what a yummy scent it is!
I look forward to hearing more about re-training the brain to KNOW that wealth is on its way – and will continue to acknowledge and live that wealth is all there is. I am that!
Over and out until next week. It is your turn Richard! So happy to have you in my life!
GIFT: I was blessed to receive a little gift the other day in video form that reminded me what my morning practice can include. It is taught by the free, open mind and being of a very wise 6-year old. I bow down to this “Let Yourself Go” embodied yoga guru.
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THE AMERICAN: As Thoreau so eloquently stated, wealth is certainly the ability to fully experience life. But how many of us truly do that? In this country we seem to be so very busy working hard to earn money that we miss the opportunities to savor life moments, and the relationships and experiences that fill them. For me, Divine Wealth is our natural and innate being state.
In every breath we take there is opportunity to increase this wealth if we choose to do so. This stuff of what we are made…a creative higher intelligence….is like a collective bank that one can draw upon which earns “interest” as we each live our full authentic expression in all areas of our lives to the best of our ability.
Easier said than done you might say with all the stimulus and responsibilities “having at us” every day. Yes, it is a very complex and changing world right now that is awakening to a much greater vision of global unity. I say, how about trying on a different perspective than the template that our western culture has us wrapped up in?
We do have choice…always…although it may not seem so a times. Close your eyes, take a full breath and rest in the pause between your inhale and exhale. There is the wealth! LIFE!
What is Wealth?
Let’s take a look at what the Oxford Dictionary tells us. It splits the word into three distinct areas:
*Money and riches
*Well being and happiness
*A sense of community-good.
In other words, wealth is not simply about earning mega-bucks (although that’s important). It’s about finding balance in all areas of life: finances, health, relationships and environment. If you aim for success in one area at the expense of another, this balance is lost. If you aim for success in all areas of life – a philosophy called Kaizen in the East – you will open the doors to true rewards.
Contrary to the bad news pumped out by television and mainstream media, the playground of our universe is not a bad place to be. Within and behind it all is a system that that allows for constant change whilst unifying everything. Einstein called this a “spirit far superior to that of man.” I call it the Divine Design.
The Divine Design is the unending process that underpins all existence: from the leaf that follows the sun as it passes across the sky to the bird that follows invisible magnetic lines on its migratory path, from the vibration of tiniest sub-atomic quark to the make-up of the hugest star. It divided the cell at the moment you were conceived. It fills your lungs with each breath that you take.
The Divine Design lives in every strand of your DNA. It lights up your eyes with the spark of laughter and fills them with tears when you feel true love. It makes your heart leap when you look with wonder at the world around you. It is, literally, what in-spires you. And it gives you the power to co-create the world around you. It gives you access to your Divine Wealth.
We have been short-changed by those who taught us. We all have far more power than we have been led to believe. We can do anything that we imagine, when we act in line with the Divine Design. But it is not enough to merely think about that power. We must take action so that we can feel it and be it: each moment, every day.
As Mahatma Ghandi said so eloquently “We must all be the change we wish to see in the world.” In other words, your future is up to you. You are responsible for the world around you, no one else. It’s your choice! Your life. RC