Risk or Possibility?

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RISK OR POSSIBILITY?

I don’t know about you, but when I hear the word “risk” I often feel a physical reaction in my body. My stomach clamps down just a little, my breath stops or becomes shallow, and my shoulders and jaw tense.

Upon looking it up in Wikipedia I found there were two definitions that drew my attention:

1) “Risk is the potential of losing something of value. Values (such as physical health, social status, emotional well being or financial wealth) can be gained or lost when taking risk resulting from a given action, activity and/or inaction, foreseen or unforeseen.”

2) “Risk can also be defined as the intentional interaction with uncertainty.”

The first definition puts the emphasis on loss by the very first sentence. It makes up for it in the last sentence, but you are left with the overall feeling of potentially “losing something”.

The second definition makes it an effective action that you take with full attention and letting go, or surrendering, into the relationship with uncertainty. This could also be called trusting what is unfolding.

This last brings more spaciousness in the body, whereas the first one could provoke the reaction of clamping down preparing for “battle with the powers that be”. A relationship with uncertainty seems to exist every moment of our lives no matter how much we might wish to control things. It could be seen as the very nature of existence.

Having dedicated the 66th year of my life to “living fearlessly” during a ritual standing in the waters of the Pacific ocean in July, the ever present “risks” are now seen as a vehicle for opportunity and possibility. That isn’t to say that my old patterns of “security” and “survival” don’t show up, but at least they have a louder voice that I can hear versus the stealth maneuvers they have done in the past.

An example of this showed up this past Sunday morning during my Gentle Yoga here in Austin. Now this class could be seen as a “risk” unto itself as one never quite knows what the focus of the class will be or what the practice will hold. Rather like life…..thank you to my yoga teacher Keith!!

This day the class was focused on risk and exploring edges…. was definitely not all that gentle, and supplied a multitude of opportunities to choose to move into edges or “stay safe”.

The peak of the class for me was in a two partner assist where we were to choose between two poses to be assisted and supported in. One was something that I knew I could do easily and though may take me into some new territory, was definitely not a “risk”.

The other one was a pose that I hadn’t done for years as it takes upper body strength to push into from the floor, which I have let go of as I have aged. There was no going back and forth between the two in the decision making process.

5350316_l-1024x652I knew immediately that the assisted wheel (from standing into a backbend arch coming down with hands on the floor) was to be the one by the energy flow that moved through me when I considered them.

As I felt my two assistants attempt to support me in the best way they knew how I put my total attention on the movement of my spine and the breath. Suddenly there was another pair of hands assisting (my teacher Keith) which created spaciousness for me to celebrate coming into this pose with relative ease and mindful movement.

In those moments a space opened up within. It wasn’t only being in the pose, but the additional after effects from trusting the moment to moment movement of my body, the breath guiding me, and the hands and hearts assisting me.

The joy that I felt and the opening of spaces within spilled over to my assistants who greeted me with brilliant smiles as I came up out of the pose.

Now as some of you know I practice as a yoga teacher/therapist thus in this “risk” I was asked to move out of the “personal” (proving that I know what I am doing, the realm of good/bad, right/wrong, etc..) and instead trust that the unfolding would take me where I was to go.

Let’s just say that is a MUCH LARGER space to play and blossom in!

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Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to dissolve the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutsu, yoga therapy and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

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Vibrant Resilience

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“Loss makes artists of us all as we weave new patterns in the fabric of our lives.
Greta W. Crosby

Last week there was a magnificent storm here in Austin, though only in parts of the area.  I had just received my faithful Mac computer back after having a new hard drive installed and was reflecting on how much I depended on this human invention to conduct my daily life and business.  Not having it at all for 5 days brought many gifts, one of which was freedom to dream into new possibility….but first the storm story!

As the sky darkened visibly before my eyes I heard peals of thunder echoing.  You could literally feel the foretelling of something very powerful about to happen.  All of a sudden I heard loud sounds coming from my roof and then right before my eyes there was a dance choreographed by nature that stunned me and took every bit of my attention.Very large hail balls were bouncing off of the roof in every direction imaginable and landing wherever they were guided to.

The sound beat against my consciousness while I was mesmerized by the seemingly chaotic movement.As this continued the sun broke through lighting up the stage and causing a glistening on everything around.  Brilliant a0d6ce033greens on the leaves and diamond like white reflected off of the hail so bright that it almost hurt your eyes, and then it happened…..a very small rainbow appeared briefly near a car parked in my next door neighbors driveway!

The joy I felt in the power and beauty of this storm touched something deep inside.  This was nature’s resilience taking a bow reminding me that though this past week of my life had held many challenges – major car repair, computer breakdown and a very difficult challenge for one of my clients – it was my task to weave new awareness into my life, not only with the color and brilliance of that rainbow, but inclusive of every single moment of the entire storm.

In actuality the rainbow was just a part of this natural display.  Without all of the other parts of the storm it would not have happened just the way that it did.

It is so easy to “react” to the challenges, stresses, and losses in our lives, yet I have learned that simply being present  – allowing the emotions to have breathing room, and old patterns to walk on by, without reacting or taking action from these transitory and unstable places -  is a path to new possibilities unfolding.

jwj_bluebonnets_043bThis is vibrant resilience.  Like the bluebonnets in the picture here that grace many of our hillsides and roadways in Austin right now.  Spring represents the possibilities that rest in the challenges of life.  A continual renewal that can only come to our attention if we allow space for our lives to unfold.

Mindfully breathing amidst new energy patterns……welcome in possibility…..

 

A Beautiful Example of Vibrant Resilience

 

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Rest In Natural Great Peace

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Imagine a glass of muddy water and what happens if you continue to shake it up.  Then what happens if you allow it to be in stillness.  This muddy glass of water is like our mind agitation.  Always filled with millions of thoughts continually crashing on the shores of our everyday life and distracting us from our purpose.

Like all of you I sometimes find my mind constantly reaching for something to figure out, worry about, future what ifs…and it goes on.  Though when relaxing into simply inhabiting the place of being in the moment, and letting go of anything that has to “be done”, the mind rests into a stillness and the glass of water becomes clear.

What if we could rest in this clear place in our everyday life?  What if all it took was a deep trust that we would be taken care of if we simply let go and “rested in natural great peace”?  How ease filled life would be.  Yet this often feels so far from our reach in the midst of a busy day with the demands and stimulation that comes at us from what seems like every direction.

I wonder if it is possible to take each of these demands or responsibilities into the understanding and embodiment that each request of our time whether in relationship, business, child rearing, or profession comes from an opportunity “for” us versus doing something “to” us.  How might this change the way in which we live our lives?

It is from this place of  “natural great peace” that the water clears and we are able to rest in the source of who we are.  What greater place to inhabit for a richness of life that has us sitting down to the banquet of life.

Take a few minutes and rest within the images and words of the poem “Rest In Natural Great Peace”.  Though there are Buddhist images and powerful chanting that accompany this video it is really non-secular in nature.  It invites all of us to come home to the core of our being….Natural Wealth indeed!

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Fundamentals For Changing The World

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Moving into 2014 I thought it relevant to bring some thoughts on how each of us might participate in our lives in a way that enhances our expression from wholeness.  Something that is now vitally important to the changing world that we inhabit.

The fundamentals below could also be said to be relevant for exposing and evolving our unique expression without fear in each moment of this gift of life we have been given.  For what is life if not the most precious gift possible that needs to be shared fully and extravagantly with the world in service and love.

My comments are below the quotes from Gandhi.

Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World:

1. Change
You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.”

As our planet and systems evolve and shift to a healthier way of being the most important element in that change is the invitation you extend to yourself to deepen into the heart of living – to fully express your life from a place of transparency and vulnerability.  Your soul is beckoning you to come out.  Listen, move beyond the fear, accept the constant inevitable change, and come out dancing with your own unique being!

2. Control.
Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

Essentially their is no control in this life as everything is always changing.  We only assume we do have control out of a sense of protection and fear.  What if we became a collaborative culture listening to and respecting others ideas and creativity, and discarded control as a reflection of our own low self worth and distrust of a moving Universe that has a wisdom way beyond what we can even comprehend?

3. Forgiveness
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”

A powerful example of this is shown in the restorative justice movement which is currently sweeping the world. It is a means – a way – to go to the very source of violence and desperation and bring healing through exposure and forgiveness.  South Africa gave us a beautiful model and now we are realizing that when perpetrator and victim can come together and deeply forgive themselves and each other that the cycle of violence is broken.   That is strength!

4. Action.
An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”

How often have you come in contact with those that speak a volume of words but either do not take action, or live a life completely different from what they have been preaching?  Taking action from values and heart felt practices of living consciously and compassionately is what it will take to change the world.

5. The present moment.
“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”

Living in the past or projecting what will happen in the future only takes us out of the moment we are in.  The present moment is all that we have – one breath in and one breath out at a time.  Shall we miss the passage of our life all together or shall we make each moment count?!

6. Everyone is human.
“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”

This is called transparency.  To know that we are human and that we will make mistakes and hurt people – not out of malice or forethought, but out of being human.  As each of us relates from a place of deep understanding, compassion and kindness we inspire each other to come out of hiding and present ourselves “naked” to the world.  If everyone is doing this then we shall see how much we are really all the same….

7. Persist.
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”

Staying true to your path and purpose with some changes in course from time to time – one must be resilient – is perhaps one of the most exhilarating, at times frustrating and challenging things to do.  However, what do all of the great positive change makers have in common – they persist!  By the way, don’t forget to ask for support from time to time.  This is the era for connection, collaboration and co-creation!!

8. Goodness.
I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”

When we put our attention on the good in life that is what we see and experience.  When we put our attention on the good in people they seem to relate to us from the place where we have placed our attention. What could be simpler?!

9. Truth
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”

Mindfulness in all that we do contributes to living in truth – truth of the moment and the truth of what we feel and express in each of those moments.  It may be challenging to cozy up with truth at times, but the alternative is to live our precious lives in a flurry of self inflicted lies and assumptions.  Whenever your mind makes an assumption or tells you a story ask the question – Is this true?  Bet it won’t be most of the time!

10. Development.
“Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”

Once again we come back to the truth that everything changes.  There is nothing – I repeat nothing – in this world that ever stays the same.  That includes everything.  So why hang on to old stories, philosophies and rigid rules when you could have such a grand time co-creating a new world one new development at a time….and then like a child’s building blocks let them all fall down and start over again.  It is in the very act of creation where lies the spark of life…

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Gaye Abbott, RYT assists individuals to drop the layers that cover the natural innate blueprint we came in with and reveal, through a combination of evolutionary energy work, Jin Shin Jyutus, Reiki, mentoring, yoga therapy and breath re-patterning, the larger purpose and co-creative expression that we are here for.

For those interested in receiving private sessions please contact Gaye at: JoyfulGaye@NaturalPassages.com.  Travel to your location in the U.S. or globally is available.  Please inquire.  Skype: gaye.abbott

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To Be Or Not To Be….

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“Wherever you are no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to your like the wild geese, harsh and exciting – over and over announcing your place in the family of things.”
Mary Oliver

….that is the question!  To be or not to be.  We struggle to know ourselves throughout our lives not realizing that it is a simple task of being present to what is emerging moment to moment within our being.  Not the labels that we have taken on to define us, but instead something much vaster that keeps us yearning for something that seems just out of our reach, yet is right there in our imagination and deeply imprinted in the cells of our body – in our very heart, spirit and soul – coming home to the sacredness of our innate being.

Even for those that don’t get “the lingo” that I just used – you know what I am talking about..  This place of living comes from having engaged the patterns, stories and beliefs that have held us captive within an exterior lived life and that have kept us basing our actions on what is important to those that touch our lives more than what comes from our authentic expression.  At some point in time this engagement has kept us alive and surviving – sometimes quite nicely thank you very much.

Now, what the global shift we are undertaking asks from each of us is to heal and clear away those engagements that no1045166_530216187026429_838979867_n-1 longer serve us and to re-engage from a place of deep authentic awareness of who we are and what type of service we are here to offer.  This is a far cry from what most of us have lived most of our lives.  This wild “soul nature” is directly connected with the natural world.  In fact, we are the natural world. So many have long ago forgotten this and given themselves away to a paradigm of mechanistic thinking that now threatens the very planet that we live upon and has impacted every segment of our society.

For me one of the places that I find this engagement with “soul” is on the ecstatic dance and contact improv dance floor.  Here there is no leader and no follower.  Instead the “dance” is based on what is emerging from and through you in every moment.  There is complete freedom here for one to explore what is yearning to be expressed in a safe, loving and playful environment.  I have always stated “I desire to live my life in the way in which I dance” – free, natural and from a deep soul expression.  Aging has it’s compensations – I am coming closer to this every day!

Another place I find this deep sacred self engagement is within the energy work that I offer to people.  Deep listening, trust, heartfelt engagement and embodiment create the knowing where I am to place my hands next.  The evolutionary component comes into place as I sense and feel the blueprint of the individuals energy system returning home to harmony and wholeness.  This then sparks the transformation of the system to “upgrade”, thus deeply supporting the individuals “coming home to themSelves” in a way that translates into their everyday life.

For the rest of this year I invite each of you to make a real, honest heartfelt invitation to your soul to “turn up the volume” as Sera Beak says in her new book, Red, Hot and Holy: A Heretics Love Story, thus  “becoming more present and active in your awareness, body and ordinary life”. 

Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., an internationally recognized stem cell biologist and leader in bridging science and spirituality proposes that Darwinian evolution theories are not holding up to what quantum scientists are now finding.  It is now coming to light that each leap in evolution happened because at some point the membrane of a particular organism was stretched as far as it could go to the point of bursting, thus the evolutionary urge brought the organisms together to form a new collaborative life form to expand the potential of the new organism.  They had to expand their container (or cell membrane) in order to continue to live!

With the advent of internet and other forms of connecting we are now recognizing that the very core of life is deeply interconnected and that the fate of ourselves and the planet depends on collaboration, acceptance and coming together in innovative, compassionate and creative ways. This form of new life depends on each person inhabiting more clearly a rooted sense and embodiment of their purpose here and taking actions from that authentic expression and wild Source.  This translates to expanding our old containers for they have become too small for our being.

As we move into the holidays I extend this invitation to come into them with as much of YOU on board as possible.  By that I mean not succumbing to the mind numbing stress that can happen this time of year and more gracefully relating to family, friends and co-workers from a very grounded and whole sense of yourself.

Our growth and awareness often comes in small increments, but it is in simply saying yes to the sacred journey of life that this expansion becomes rooted.

May your holidays be the best that you have ever experienced!

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How you breathe is the way in which you live your life.  If this statement is true, then how would you like to breathe?  Shallow and restricted or full bodied and naturally?

Use a focus each week for the entire year to promote the vibrant aliveness that is your natural birth right!

 

What Is Happiness?

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Several years ago now I attended a global healing conference in Bali, Indonesia.  One of the speakers was the Finance Minister from Bhutan.  He spoke about Bhutan’s GNH or Gross National Happiness Index versus the Gross National Product/Gross Domestic Product we have based on an entirely different paradigm/frame of reference.


In this mostly Buddhist country you will see a series of hand-painted signs doting the side of the winding mountain road that runs between the airport and the Bhutanese capital, Thimphu. Instead of commands to cut speed or check mirrors, they offer the traveler a series of life-affirming mantras. “Life is a journey! Complete it!” says one, while another urges drivers to, “Let nature be your guide”. Another, standing on the edge of a perilous curve, simply says: “Inconvenience regretted.”


The Finance Minister told us that since 1971, Bhutan has rejected GDP as the only way to measure progress. In its place, it has championed a new approach to development, which measures prosperity through formal principles of gross national happiness (GNH) and the spiritual, physical, social and environmental health of its citizens and natural environment.  


In other words there is a belief that well being should take preference over material growth.  As our world collapses under the breakdown of financial systems, social injustice and wide-scale environmental destruction and degradation we may need to take this way of perceiving life under serious consideration!  In fact, let it be the operating system from which we live our lives!!


What is happiness anyway?  I could go on for pages and philosophize about the answer to this question, but when it comes right down to it everyone finds the answer within themselves and in everyday lift moments.  


So, I won’t go on for pages, but instead am giving you a video to watch that I would like to encourage you to share with many others.  After watching it (and wiping the tears away – have kleenex ready) perhaps you will be inspired to do a similar practice.  We couldn’t see the people on the other end of the phone, but I bet they were just as similarly affected as those we could see.
Would love your comments on this one!  Especially if you try it out….

https://www.upworthy.com/scientists-discover-one-of-the-greatest-contributing-factors-to-happiness-youll-thank-me?c=upw9

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The Wealth of Mystery

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Those who dwell among the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life”.  Rachel Carson

What would our lives be without mystery?  I would not want to imagine that sort of world.  A world where everything is explained away as having  one particular meaning or understanding.  A world where the sacred spark that  starts the heart for the first time is explained away as a biological function and the mystery of a caterpillar being turned into the liquid form of imaginal cells that assist the creation and emergence of a stunning  butterfly with the opening of the chrysalis is monarch-emerging-from-chrysalis2downplayed as just nature doing its thing.

Even our very breath that keeps us alive.  Where and how does your breath emerge?  Have you ever thought of it in terms of a mystery instead of attempting to pin it down in scientific terms?  What happens with that first breath, the 7,000 each day, the 500 million in a normal lifespan, and the last exhale that flies from our bodies to soar elsewhere.

Breathing supports every experience you have.  You exchange 10 billion trillion atoms with your surroundings with every breath you take.  The atoms that you inhale every day have traversed the bodies of living beings across the universe and across time – a testament to the law of giving and receiving.   What mystery connects us all in such an intimate dance in something as simple as breathing in air and All things share the same breath the beast the tree the man the air shares its spirit with all the life it supportsout air – each breath having emerged out of or taken in by another living form.  Always interconnected….

Even the cosmos beyond, around and within us bubbles with mystery of the unknown.  Man’s efforts to pierce the veil of something so immense that one cannot even grasp a very tiny bit of it’s character or vastness is at best futile.

Perhaps the daily mysteries that face us as we walk through the moments of our lives are meant to provide the spark for opening our arms, our minds and our hearts to moving forward into the places that hold no explanation….but instead hold a place for awe, wonder. and creativity.

It is within this dance of creation that we feel the life pulse that creates the greatest natural art piece that we will ever behold.  Know that the beauties and mysteries of the Earth and all that surrounds it will always hold the meaning for our lives.  It is this which we indulge in.  It is this that keeps us awake and present to the endless mystery and wealth that is life here and now.

Indulge and be shaken apart never to be “put back” the same way ever again.  Soak in the mystery and behold that you too are a part of this natural dance of the Divine.

When we surrender to (Grace) we surrender to something bigger than ourselves – to a universe that knows what it is doing. . . . We learn to trust that the power that holds galaxies together can handle the circumstances of our relatively little lives.” ~ Marianne Williamson

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Currency and Connection

Two-hearts-of-money2Nogie King in The Currency of Connection states beautifully:

“I believe that we sit at the edge of an evolutionary impulse that can move human kind into a radical and collective realignment with wholeness, purpose and grace.  Life has always been an extraordinary  process for creative potential.  What is different now is our growing ability to perceive and then actualize engagement that is our natural birthright.”

With curiosity I invite you to enter the world of money as a vibrant, loving relationship just waiting to connect us to not only our own potential, but also to the creative genius of just about everything on this planet of ours.  If you are like me, you most probably have had, or are still having, a rocky relationship with money. Not your idea of the ideal loving, respectful, and trusting relationship that we all yearn for I bet!

What has helped me tremendously over the past few weeks after quitting a job that I allowed to rob me of creative juice and flow, is to remember that money in and of itself first came into being with the purpose of fostering and celebrating human relationships.  It has now become something else for many people – something that adds stress  to daily life – perhaps unnecessary stress at that.

Looking at money through the lens of relationship can be a fascinating journey and can provide insights that just may surprise you!  Relationship with yourself, with others, with our planet, and with money itself most probably deeply embedded in scarcity and lack in some form or another.

I am reminded of the days growing up that we used to play Monopoly.  Loved handling all that play money and buying the primemonopoly-money properties while hoping that one of the other players would land on my high density housing prime space and have to hand over more money for rent!

We needed to be in relationship in that game.  Face to face, throwing the dice to see what would happen next in our relationship with each other and our money.  Out of necessity it would often go on for hours as money  changed hands back and forth.

Life lessons were tucked in there as well like landing in jail and hoping for a “Get Out of Jail Free” card to release you back into the game and back into relationship with the other players.

Well have you ever thought that we put ourselves in jail and restrict the easy flow of money and vibrant alive relationship in our lives because of deeply engrained patterns that were put down early in our tender lives for what we thought was survival?

Here is a part of my story to make this more personal and to highlight the fact that how we use money is an opportunity for our own spiritual awakening and an expression of our fundamental interconnectedness.

counterfeit-money-funnyI was either in a state of worry and fear around where the next dollar was coming from, or when I did man-chasing-money2have money it rather slipped away from me. I was always trying to find ways to get more back into my bank account.  This went on for many years even through times when I had plenty of money to support myself and my growing children.

At the same time I was creating relationships with men in much the same way.  Two marriages, another long term partner, and quite a number of other relationships later I finally found myself taking a look at both my relationship with money and with men.  Bet you won’t be surprised that there were some underlying beliefs that were interwoven in both relationships.

When my mother died suddenly at the early age of 39 when I was only 14 years old I of course felt abandoned by someone that I really needed at that time in my life.  The connection had been broken and I took it on as something that I must have done.  My underlying belief at this time was that I must not be worthy which was unconsciously supported by my father who went into a deep depression leaving me to take on the responsibility of my younger brother and the household.  In a way he had abandoned me by not honoring that I had needs too.

What did I do?  I created a belief system and pattern that lasted until just recently.  Work hard (read struggle here) to take care of others to make certain you are appreciated and loved, i.e worthy; push down your own needs, desires and passion (stay hidden); create relationships with people and money where “rescue” is needed (so that I could prove I was loved); and not only attract unavailable men, but leave relationships first before they can leave you.

Can you draw a parallel between these patterns and my relationship with money?  Essentially not feeling worthy in my own essential self (money slipping through my hands and creating “rescue” scenarios), taking on others desires and passions as my own (struggling to bring money in through others businesses/visions that were not in alignment with my whole hearted creative expression ), and setting up the abandonment before I can be abandoned (I am not worthy).

I think you get the picture here.  We are in a very powerful time on our planet right now where each one of us has the opportunity to repattern into “wholeness, purpose and grace” in a way that honors our own highest potential as well as that of every other life form on this planet.  If we don’t do this our species has the potential to disappear!

connection20This time is about creatively connecting and collaborating within the deep interconnection that sustains all of us – every single life form on this planet.  It is called Unity – the yoga of life.  In order to open to this way of being each one of us must take the inner journey of clearing anything in the way of truly being ourselves in the world.

Since money is a large part of our life, and always will be present in some way, why not create a trusting, flowing, sufficient, honest and loving relationship with it.  It really does want to love you back and is the currency of connection!!

SOME SUGGESTED BOOKS:

The Currency of Connection: How to Create An Exquisitely Kick Ass Relationship With Money by Nogie Kingsoul-of-money-paperback

The Trance of Scarcity: Hey! Stop Holding Your Breath and Start Living Your Life! by Victoria Castle

The Soul of Money: Reclaiming The Wealth of Our Inner Resources by Lynn Twist

The Prosperous Heart, by Julia Cameron

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Improv Life – All Out Play!

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We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”  George Bernard Shaw

I wonder if you have ever heard of the story about the monkey and the river?  I had not,  until reading it last week in a beautiful book called The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo.  The story goes like this:

It is said a great Zen teacher asked an initiate to sit by a stream until he heard all the water had to teach.  After days of bending his mind around the scene, a small monkey happened by, and, in one seeming bound of joy, splashed about in the stream.  The initiate wept and returned to his teacher, who scolded him lovingly, “The monkey heard.  You just listened.”

The initiate was brought to tears because all of his reverence, devotion and meditation had not brought him to the joyous moments of play of the monkey. He never really felt the river and what it had to offer him.  The monkey innately knew about being embodied with the river, instead of sitting to ponder its meaning.  There was no holding back!

I had to ask myself the question, “How much time are you giving to play and uninhibited, sense filled  enjoyment in any particular moment?”  As the monks on the roller coaster (yes, this is one of my favorite pictures of all times) hold their hands up in the air in pure joy and play we feel their moments of exhilaration.  With their mouths wide open I am certain that expressions of many different emotions are coming forth.  It blows any preconceived notions we had about what a monk should be like now doesn’t it?!

people-playingPlay encourages fearlessness – to explore one’s world; to test boundaries and step beyond resistance; to prepare one for the unpredictable; to reward flexibility, creativity, and a willingness to let go into the unknown.  Our strong survival imperative has us most often hanging on and contracting in tight little balls of fear – but play can change that in one instant!

Yesterday, our yoga teacher decided that the entire class would be devoted to play.  Now serious yoga students often get caught up in the asana (the yoga pose) and how well they can do it.  Little do many of those people know that most asana was created out of a sense of curiosity around what the human body can do.  Curiosity leads to play.  Play leads to joy and coming up with something completely and absolutely new!

The last part of our class had us divided into two groups.  Each group would take 3 minutes to move to a certain music chosen by our teacher and the other group would be the audience.  As I watched the first group “performing” it was quite obvious that almost everyone was locked into some semblance of a traditional yoga pose, sometimes attempting to string them together in a flow of sorts.  The difficulty letting go was apparent.

It made me reflect on how tight we hold ourselves in every day life for fear of either “doing it wrong” or “being judged” followed by the inevitable – “I am just not good enough”.  We focus on doing something the way we think it SHOULD look or be done (color within the lines please) instead of doing something out of a sense of playful improvisation finding that completely new possibilities will arise from this place of creation.

The illusion of control is always ever present – do we really ever experience exactly what we thought it would be like?

When it came our groups turn to “perform” I made an instant decision.  I closed my eyes and as the music started it’s funky beat ecstatic-danceI became the music.  Becoming the music meant that my body senses were on high drive. Everything within me let go to create in the moment based on what I was feeling, and driven by my bodies natural rhythms.  What could have been an anxious 3 minutes became outrageous play and a very strong experience  of joy.

As I bowed with hands at my heart along with my group I realized that there was no “wrong way” and the only judgement that would have any negative impact would have been my own.  After class one woman came up to me with a big smile on her face and said, “I enjoyed watching you so much.  You were so free and looked like you were completely enjoying yourself in creating the movements.  I want to be able to do that too.”

If we follow all the rules, we miss all the fun.”  Katherine Hepburn

SO….we always have a choice!  Next time you feel like you need to “get it right” please take a very big inhale and let go into that glorious sense filled body of yours.  It will lead the way – PLAY!!

P.S. A little example of the animal kingdom in full out play….I know that you will smile!!

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Simple Acts of Kindness

bluebonnets, flamingos, and a truck

Thank you to “Two Cannoli” for taking this great picture (The bluebonnets have particular meaning as they are wild here in Austin, Texas!) and for understanding that it only takes a second to notice an act of kindness done to you….or be aware of when an act of kindness can be offered to another.

That means we have all the time in the world to offer and receive acts of kindness.  Do you think the world would be a different place if we committed not only to doing something that scares us every day, but also to notice when kindness has been offered to us and openly appreciate it, as well as be aware of when we can offer a simple act of kindness to another.

Sometimes the best are when you are least expecting it, or those secret ones where you will never know who the agent of kindness was!

Each of us knows how it feels to receive an act of kindness.  It could be as simple as someone letting you onto a crowded road, a smile passing on the street,  or going the extra step to offer service above and beyond what is expected.  Over the past few days I have been the recipient as well as the giver of acts of kindness.  I am particularly aware of them as a grand leap was taken last week by quitting a job and choosing instead to immerse myself in my own business.  A somewhat stressful time yes, but because of this giving and receiving of kindness I am particularly aware of how very blessed I am!  That has taken my attention!

The day after I quit my job I took myself to the nearest office supply store in order to get a new business calendar (no I don’t have a smart phone etc – I actually do it the “old fashioned way”) to plan and vision on.  This store is a chain store and often times you don’t expect the type of service you might find in a smaller privately owned establishment.  However, within the space of the 10 minutes I was in there I was asked by 3 people whether they could help me find what I was looking for and smiles were exchanged each time.  The crowning glory was the check out woman who first apologized for my having to wait for a minute or so and then while she was checking out my purchases we exchanged a very personal and loving dialog.

Her smile was huge as she said to me, “it is good to see you back again.  I just saw you 2 days ago right?” and when I said no she told me “you have the kind of face everyone wants to remember!”  As I shared with her that I had just quit a job the day before and was heading into being my own boss, she gave me a high 5 and said “don’t give up!”  A few more comments were exchanged and then it was time  for me to leave the register.  I looked in her eyes and thanked her for her attention, service and kindness and we both felt the love exchanged between two complete strangers.

kindness2Then yesterday it was my turn.  I was doing my regular lap swimming and no one else was in my lane.  Near the end of my time in the pool I looked up and there was a father with his young daughter about age 8 or so.  I asked if she wanted to share the lane with me.  At first hesitant she jumped in at her father’s urging.  I watched her swim beside me and noted that she was an amazing swimmer for her age.  When I got back to the end of the lane they had changed to an open lane so that the father could be beside her.  As her father jumped in I called out “your daughter is a great swimmer”!  He didn’t hear me, but she did as she kick boarded her way down the adjoining lane.  The smile and thank you she gave me were brilliant!

Today it was time to receive and give as I was given service above and beyond the norm when a computer at the local Fed Ex store would not print my documents.  Then I was able to give a simple act of kindness by stopping by a local herb/vitamin pharmacy to purchase some natural products for a very dear friend who has poison ivy creeping all over her body and drop them off at her house.

Though this has been an incredibly challenging post trauma growth period for me over the last week these simple acts of kindness given and received have reminded me that this is what life is about.  Our connection with others is always there.  We always have the choice to expand our awareness outwardly in a way that says “I care” and “I appreciate you”!  The opportunities are limitless!

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